logicallefty
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"I need to spend time with my kids."
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
U should never be hitting up a woman with a kid"I need to spend time with my kids."
I've gotten the "maybe we can be together in the future" line before and the "you're perfect, just not for me".I'll take some exact ones I remember...
1. "Maybe we'll get back together. Maybe we won't."
<That was 11 years ago, and she hasn't called back yet. I should check my voicemail again to be sure lol.>
2. "I want to get a bunch of people to go to xyz."
<I don't want to be alone with you.>
3. "I'm dating now."
<Does that mean I'm not included?>
4. "Sorry I'm kind of tired tonight. A friend came over last night, and we talked all night. But umm umm we slept in different rooms."
<Can't make this up.>
5. "You're everything I ever wanted in a guy, but I like bad boys."
<She's only 35. She'll grow out of it in 45+ years and be ready for a "beta provider" to help raise her great-grandkids lol.>
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
So true. I think a starving lion would give up its kill before a woman between 18 and 45 would give up her precious phone. She might miss a like for her latest selfie by an orbiter.My two favorite are
"Ohhhh"
and "Sorry, I didn't have my phone on me"
The one thing more annoying than uninterested responses is the fact you think I am stupid, Girl your phone is glued to your hands 24/7
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This sh*t again? It doesn't matter if your plates have kids.U should never be hitting up a woman with a kid
Who said anything about dating?Does to me. Only beta fags date plates with kids.
Oh god don't get me started with this one.14. I'm on my period.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
this!, i'm all up for never get close to a woman with kids, but if she want to open her legs to you and she is still hot, go for it, just don't fall for her or ever take her seriousWho said anything about dating?
11. I'll think about it.10 is blank for *no response*.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.