"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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too young for LTR?

slickjesse

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hey guys. im 20 and in a very serious relationship. we've been together for about 2 years. i feel like i really love her but lately ive been feeling like maybe im too young for such a serious, heading towards marrige relationship. if i break up with her i know i would miss her and i feel like its hard to find someone with this kind of connection. any help?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Spike_the_cowboy

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They tried to tell us we're too young~

Who says that you have to get married? Go for it now, and if it turns to shyte later on you can still get out of it. I know how you feel, I've been there myself more than once. But things can change. Theres no need to tie the knot just yet, so don't fear life so much. Enjoy it while it lasts.

You're not too young, but you will be too old if you wait too long to enjoy life.

:cool:
 

Hollowpoint

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keep doing what you are doing

BUT, I think, before I marry I want to get a good job and move out on my own. So.....at least 5 years from now for ME.

I don't think you should have a rush....nor should you be afraid of it.
 

CyranoDeBergerac

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My first LTR was at the age of thirteen. Are you too young? Not as long as you hang off of marriage until you're both good and ready. Would you sacrifice monetary riches just because you feel like you're too young? Then why would you sacrifice emotional riches?

As long as its a healthy relationship, I say Gung Ho.

-CyranoDeBergerac
 

Austin Allegro

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Agreed. A colleague met his g/f when he was 17, he's been with her exclusively for 17 years and is only now getting married, he seems very happy as far as I can tell, so why knock it. If, on the other hand, he was unhappy, this would be the most AFC thing ever.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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