"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Too well dressed?

Rationale

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Hey guys,

Never thought this would be an issue, but anyway.

Been going out a fair bit recently and met a whole lot of new women and whatnot.

However, I've noticed that I'm getting a lot of male attention (I'm a heterosexual male) and other girls have commented that I look gay purely because I'm 'too' well presented.

I tend to roll with very similar attire to this stock image I found (minus the glasses - I hate glasses).
http://www.examiner.com/images/blog/wysiwyg/image/trench(1).jpg

My question is, is being too well dressed potentially ruining opportunities for me?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

FairShake

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People may think you're gay but, in all honesty, enough straight guys have been stealing gay style for AWHILE now that showing a female attention will nip that in the bud pretty quick.

Depending on your audience that is. If you're hanging with blue-collar people, hipsters, nerds, whatever you need to blend a little more if you want to score. There are certain times when you can absolutely dress too well.
 

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Doesn't matter how you dress..

You are doign the approach anyway and initiating talking, just don't dress the total opposit of your attitude.

I tend to overdress, but i like it a lot - girls tend to think i am gay, but i am getting laid anyway :)
 

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FairShake said:
Depending on your audience that is. If you're hanging with blue-collar people, hipsters, nerds, whatever you need to blend a little more if you want to score. There are certain times when you can absolutely dress too well.
Yep, dress appropriately for your audience. It's important to stand out but not like a sore thumb and making people wonder why you're even there to begin with.
 

Rationale

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Fair points guys.

I'd say then that I need to dress more the scene, rather than dress like a boss everywhere I go.

Thanks for the input!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Demonicale

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This is a very good thread, and it's true!..

I alway's dress with a smart shirt, and i've been thinking about dressing down abit to a more casual look.

tonight i'll put it to the test :)
 

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Nah I think you look good, if you feel comfortable wearing it...rock it daily
 
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