"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Too well dressed?

Rationale

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Hey guys,

Never thought this would be an issue, but anyway.

Been going out a fair bit recently and met a whole lot of new women and whatnot.

However, I've noticed that I'm getting a lot of male attention (I'm a heterosexual male) and other girls have commented that I look gay purely because I'm 'too' well presented.

I tend to roll with very similar attire to this stock image I found (minus the glasses - I hate glasses).
http://www.examiner.com/images/blog/wysiwyg/image/trench(1).jpg

My question is, is being too well dressed potentially ruining opportunities for me?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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FairShake

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People may think you're gay but, in all honesty, enough straight guys have been stealing gay style for AWHILE now that showing a female attention will nip that in the bud pretty quick.

Depending on your audience that is. If you're hanging with blue-collar people, hipsters, nerds, whatever you need to blend a little more if you want to score. There are certain times when you can absolutely dress too well.
 

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Doesn't matter how you dress..

You are doign the approach anyway and initiating talking, just don't dress the total opposit of your attitude.

I tend to overdress, but i like it a lot - girls tend to think i am gay, but i am getting laid anyway :)
 

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FairShake said:
Depending on your audience that is. If you're hanging with blue-collar people, hipsters, nerds, whatever you need to blend a little more if you want to score. There are certain times when you can absolutely dress too well.
Yep, dress appropriately for your audience. It's important to stand out but not like a sore thumb and making people wonder why you're even there to begin with.
 

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Fair points guys.

I'd say then that I need to dress more the scene, rather than dress like a boss everywhere I go.

Thanks for the input!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Demonicale

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This is a very good thread, and it's true!..

I alway's dress with a smart shirt, and i've been thinking about dressing down abit to a more casual look.

tonight i'll put it to the test :)
 

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Nah I think you look good, if you feel comfortable wearing it...rock it daily
 
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