"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Too uptight?

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Hello, everyone. I'm terribly sorry for disappearing like that. I'm sure no one cares, but I did disappear nonetheless.

Either way, during my absence, I fell into a deep, AFC-induced depression and was forced to go see a shrink and a therapist. The shrink told me what I already knew; about my OCD, social avoidance disorder, etc. My therapist, amongst the Dr. Phil-esque dreck, left me a note saying "In my personal opinion, your social problems stem from the fact that you're too uptight. <smiley face>" (I'm not sure if he was being facetious or something.)

My question to you, dear SoSuave, is how does one stop being "uptight?" What precisely does my therapist mean by that? (I am cognizant of its dictionary definition, but am unsure of how it is applied to social labels.)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think most problems are confidence related, including mine. You must have had moments with really good friends or at least family that you can have a really great time with, and you're very confident and you don't worry about anything.
 
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Well that's a deep Q. If you'r too uptight then it's hard to know what exactly to do, no offense. Sorta like a cath 22.

When people are making fun of something or doing something less than polite do you balk at them? Seriosly, though qualified or not, dont take his words as the gospel.
 
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Utight = Tense, in the psychological way, youre tense psychologically, youre worrying, when it comes to interacting youre worrying so much that you act overly polite or according to the rules, so much that it feels unnatural, that is uptightness, PM me if you wanna hear more about it :p
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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lol therapists are really weird people, at school there was a psychologist teaching psychology, she was this old lady that wore mini-skirts and tons of makeup, acted like she was one of the girls in our class and even flirted with some of my friends, weird people.. really, anyways he was probably joking and hes kinda right tho, just work on it
 
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