"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Too nice, too soon. Need advice on how to recover

biker_gixxer

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I thought about saying a date but that seemed ultra-transparent

Exactly bro, great call.

figure if I paths cross again she will be the one feeling pressure, curiosity, and the lack of closure.

Hey, I think he's snapping out of it! LOL
If she starts to act this way, the power in the situation shifts in your direction, but it's up to you to keep is that way.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Update from Chumpzilla (aka redmenace) thinks it's working

Sent an email breaking our date saturday at the advice of the DJ collective and get this email back today, she also called three times but I didn't answer.

Her reply today:

Hi


I'm a bit surprised but that’s fine. ;-) I understand. Have fun with your friend and let me know what your schedule is like in the next coming weeks. I am leaving to go out of town a week from Friday and will be gone for 5 days. I hope when I get back, we can get together.

In any event, enjoy the performance Saturday night…it should be good.

END

She is out of my directory and I don't plan on returning her phone calls.

Any thought son what my next move should be.

-RM

PS I have two dates lined up for this weekend so I'll be able to keep myself plenty occupied.
 

biker_gixxer

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Isn't it great having all the power?

I would shoot an email back and say something like...'that's cool, look me up when you get back'... END.
 
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