"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Too much ****y+funny = untrusted

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I've noticed that to much of ****y and funny and trying to put her in wonder state makes it hard for her to trust you.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yes.... I have done this before. For a girl to trust you, you have to be serious or willing to listen. If you are being an ass or funny all the time, it makes you one dimensional which is not good at all
 
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YES, dont make CnF the only way to talk to her. It screams out "Im too smooth and THAT arrogant" or "I swear I get alot of chicks this way". Yea, have her be able to feel that you can actually get serious...but as soon as she starts talking about some other dood CUT IT.
 
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Rebound Material said:
YES, dont make CnF the only way to talk to her. It screams out "Im too smooth and THAT arrogant" or "I swear I get alot of chicks this way". Yea, have her be able to feel that you can actually get serious...but as soon as she starts talking about some other dood CUT IT.
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That's right. I nearly not get laid yesturday for being coocky+funny. Luckily for me, this girl has higher IOI for me. I bet her trust in me has gone down by now. I have a lot to do to bring that trust back up. Yeah....
 
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C&F primarily creates attraction. Think of it as 1st gear. A lot of torque to start up or plow through hardspots, but not good for higher speeds once you're moving. So when you shift into comfort, you want to tone it down and transition into other techniques that create more comfort, rapport, bonding, etc..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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GREAT EXPLANATION wayword. If you keep C&F going too much after the 1st gear you can cause distance that originally created attraction!
 
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I disagree. She will say stuff like she "I think we have trust issues." Basically this is just testing. Use C&F as much as possible. I disagree with everyones posts above me. You should try to carry on conversations eventually but the more C&F the better.
 
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It depends on how you use C&F. If it's sarcasm, or biting at her, then it will cause issues. You want to tease, not hurt. On the other hand, I've busted up about everything, getting on a roll, having a good time. That works like a charm. Only a fraction is directed at her, tho. DeAngelo himself says something like using C&F as a spice, salt and pepper.
 
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