"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Too much sex decreasing sex drive?

TheCWord

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Three plates. While I was accumulating them I'd often spend entire days thinking about how I'm going to plow them. When they'd actually get to my place, we'd have marathon sex sessions. I'd have to resist masturbating on off-days (but often caved).

Now that these girls are firmly locked in, I find that I rarely crave sex with the same intensity that I used to. Sometimes it's logical - I bang Plate 1 one night and the next day Plate 2 comes over and I'm just not hungry. But I'll sometimes go 3+ days without seeing any of these girls and I don't go crazy. I don't even jack off.

My biggest concern about it all is that it's affecting my motivation to escalate. A girl will come over and I'm fine to just sit there and not fool around. I always push forward and bang them anyway because I know the importance of keeping my sexual frame - but sometimes it feels like a chore!

Has anyone ever experienced this? How did you get your groove back?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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LandingWood

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You need new plates. Focus on something different for a while though. Don't push for sex. Just work on career and all that and create a dry spell for yourself if getting a new plate doesn't solve it.
 

TheCWord

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LandingWood said:
You need new plates. Focus on something different for a while though. Don't push for sex. Just work on career and all that and create a dry spell for yourself if getting a new plate doesn't solve it.
Sadly, I think you're right. Too bad. They're great girls.
 

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Same sh!t happened to me this summer. Trying to balance 4 plates is tuff and draining. Sometimes I would just shut my phone off and sit at home to enjoy being along. Having sex 6 times with four different girls in 5 days consistently was a drain and these girls were hot. Take a few days for yourself to hang out with the bros or sit at home and do nothing. You'll feel better and rejuvenated. Your plates will begin to dwindle down bc of your non committment/emotional unavailabilty eventually and then it'll be up to you to focus on 1 or 2 while bettering yourself.
 

Jair213

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if your going to be having that much sex you need to be supplementing
zinc(40 mg daily)
magnesium(600 mg daily)
Vitamind D(6000 IU daily)
Vitamin B Complex

it replenishes you quick and you dont feel as drained.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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foreverAFC

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i really feel sorry for the agony you are experiencing
 
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