"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Too much mystery?

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Can you be "too mysterious" when it comes to girls?

Once you've placed doubt in her mind about something, would you reveal yourself, or just let her wonder?

-FD
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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it really depends what it is. In terms of being mysterious overall.......its really not that important for you to master until you have the most important traits down, like confidence, self-esteem, ability to approach. Once you have yourself some confidence and ****iness, mysteriousness will just come naturally.
 

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I feel I have those traits down pretty well. Confidence and C/F are not a problem at all. :)

I'll give an example:

So you're still the big V, and she knows this. (By choice, having turned down the deed several times.) Just waiting for a girl u want to do it with.

Her: "So, are you a virgin?"

Me: "Yes." (with a smile)

Her: "I don't believe you!"

Me: (says nothing, still a little, ****y smile)


^^Right move?


Things along these lines. Some, maybe personal traits about yourself.
 

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It's not too mysterious if its working. If the chick aint interested then you did something wrong. Kind of simple..
 

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Forgot to add...

I got a real rise out of her when i said this. The 'mystery' effect works quite well for sparking her curiosity, and it has been.

But could you use this "mystery" tactic like by placing doubt in her mind too much? Like could she come to the point where she feels you're giving her the run around and dosent want to play this game anymore.

There's a balance for everything- perhaps some DJ's have experienced this.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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