"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Too much control over a woman

Michele l'Arcangelo

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I can't find many posts on this.

I hate to even write this, and even think about it, because it subconsciously makes me think about it even more. I want to put it in the back of my mind and forget about it, but it's starting to bug me.

I'm having too much control over my girl, and I love the chase. I got her after a few weeks of talking, and we've been great for months. But, it seems like the "honeymoon" period is over, it's inevitable, but it seems like I'm losing interest.

She's perfect for me in every odd way. We have uncommon things in common, a lot of them. But I just have TOO much control. The ball is in my court too much. I know I'm complaining about something that some of you wish you had... but this isn't as good as you would think.

I would never tell her what to do, who to talk to or who to not talk to, but I know she would listen to me if I told her to do whatever. I wouldn't do it, because it's MY characteristic to not limit a girl. She can do whatever she pleases. And, I even told her where I draw the line, and she knows if she crosses it, I'll move on. This is great. But, it's like, TOO easy.

I have a lot of respect for her, for the good head on her shoulders, and her upbringing, she's a good girl when it comes to morals. She would never ever think about cheating. Guys dig her, which I love. I also like the fact that she would never do anything, because she knows the consequences, and the fact she wouldn't do it because morals. She has no interest in doing so.

Something about her is making me slowly lose interest and I don't want to, because I really actually care about a girl for once. She's really different from other girls I've known.

I even straight up told her one day to keep doing what she used to do while I was chasing her, playing hot and cold, and try to keep me on my toes. But, just the fact that I said that, makes me feel like when I tell her to do that, and she does, is because she cares too much and does "play" hot and cold... because I told her to!

I've pinpointed why I'm losing interest:
- I've won her, the chase is over.
- I have control over her actions and feelings without even trying.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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5string

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How do you have too much control if you don't tell her what to do, and you let her do as she pleases? Please elaborate on too much control. Examples?

It sounds like you are bored to a degree. True?

What do you think is the "something about her" that is making you lose interest?

Could it be that you desire a new woman? Maybe it's just you if that's the case.

Sorry for playing 20 questions.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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horaholic

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Let this be a lesson. That is why chicks get bored with great guys so easily.
 
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