"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Too much Brainwashing

d9930380

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"If any of you paid attention to real relationships, you'll see the guy isn't ****y, or a jerk. He's a cool, fun guy to be around who has a life."

That's the only line worth reading and sorry to say but thanks for stating the ****ing obvious. The rest is just you trying to make yourself feel better/superior by having a pop at everyone else.

Alot of guys are analytical here - therefore we need to understand a situation before we can act appropriately. If we don't understand the situation and what's going on (and women DO test etc) then we don't feel comfortable and get frustrated because we also don't learn as we aren't aware of what we're doing wrong.

Most of what I've read has been bang on when it's come to relationships etc I've had - obvious even in hindsight.

I realised that emotions/hope/naievity whatever have caused me not to see these things or ignore them instead of standing up for myself. I feel I am a much more AWARE person now and this site has helped me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dannyrt34

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I completely agree with you. All this talk about C&F, that most guys forget everything else. It's not all about the C&F and teasing. Personally, I notice girls respond much better when I have a nice, cool, and 'intelligent' conversations with them, rather than busting their balls the whole time. I notice by teasing and too much C&F, can make you seem like you are a 'mindless' guy.

I find that you can still be on the 'nice guy side' with any woman, as long as your still secure, and confident with yourself.
 

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Women want a sensitive jerk.
 

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Dannyrt34 said:
I completely agree with you. All this talk about C&F, that most guys forget everything else. It's not all about the C&F and teasing. Personally, I notice girls respond much better when I have a nice, cool, and 'intelligent' conversations with them, rather than busting their balls the whole time. I notice by teasing and too much C&F, can make you seem like you are a 'mindless' guy.

I find that you can still be on the 'nice guy side' with any woman, as long as your still secure, and confident with yourself.
Concidering your 19, if your having your self-proclaimed "nice" and "intellegent" conversasions with most women they probally are making fun of you as that guy who tries to sound smart.

Just keep in mind, this stuff isn't even for relationships in the first place.

When a guy starts busting on a girl she knows exactly what's going on.
 
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