"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Too much Brainwashing

d9930380

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"If any of you paid attention to real relationships, you'll see the guy isn't ****y, or a jerk. He's a cool, fun guy to be around who has a life."

That's the only line worth reading and sorry to say but thanks for stating the ****ing obvious. The rest is just you trying to make yourself feel better/superior by having a pop at everyone else.

Alot of guys are analytical here - therefore we need to understand a situation before we can act appropriately. If we don't understand the situation and what's going on (and women DO test etc) then we don't feel comfortable and get frustrated because we also don't learn as we aren't aware of what we're doing wrong.

Most of what I've read has been bang on when it's come to relationships etc I've had - obvious even in hindsight.

I realised that emotions/hope/naievity whatever have caused me not to see these things or ignore them instead of standing up for myself. I feel I am a much more AWARE person now and this site has helped me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dannyrt34

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I completely agree with you. All this talk about C&F, that most guys forget everything else. It's not all about the C&F and teasing. Personally, I notice girls respond much better when I have a nice, cool, and 'intelligent' conversations with them, rather than busting their balls the whole time. I notice by teasing and too much C&F, can make you seem like you are a 'mindless' guy.

I find that you can still be on the 'nice guy side' with any woman, as long as your still secure, and confident with yourself.
 

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Women want a sensitive jerk.
 

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Dannyrt34 said:
I completely agree with you. All this talk about C&F, that most guys forget everything else. It's not all about the C&F and teasing. Personally, I notice girls respond much better when I have a nice, cool, and 'intelligent' conversations with them, rather than busting their balls the whole time. I notice by teasing and too much C&F, can make you seem like you are a 'mindless' guy.

I find that you can still be on the 'nice guy side' with any woman, as long as your still secure, and confident with yourself.
Concidering your 19, if your having your self-proclaimed "nice" and "intellegent" conversasions with most women they probally are making fun of you as that guy who tries to sound smart.

Just keep in mind, this stuff isn't even for relationships in the first place.

When a guy starts busting on a girl she knows exactly what's going on.
 
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