"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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too much analysing on this board!!!

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zemaj

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The title sums up my point!

I think we all spend too long on here debating intricate details about what is a good date idea, what the right thing to say is, how to open, whether to hug or shake hands etc etc

This surely goes against the DJ mindset of effectively not giving a fvck!?

I mean, so long as we know the basics and have read the bible, I'm honestly sure we dont need to keep second guessing ourselves, and have to have a 2-page response thread to "how do I ask her out?" etc.

Totally hypocritical btw, because I have done this myself many times... I just feel that we maybe spend too long on here analysing things that are quite unimportant/unneccesary...and in a lot of cases, this can ruin things rather than help you out in field. :cool:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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agreed, but the newbies need a structured set of rules and ideas to help them get off their crutches. God knows I did. Once their experienced enough, then yes, no need to overanalyze anymore
 
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Agleed, Mostly the people on this board need experience. Go out and get some. That's the fastest way to improve.
 
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Yeah you have a good point but also realise that many new guys are socially awkward. They are here at this site to smooth their style out---->meaning seemingly simple things will need to be discussed.

They learn what to do here and then go out and see what kind of response they get. Trial and error
 
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yeah some of the things on here have actually made it worse for me and i regret posting about it lol. i dont know why i keep comin back here hehe. i just get nervous i might fuk my date up but then i come here .. get all these mixed answers. makes me more nervous.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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women want confidence, they want humour, honesty and good manners...ask about her and find out what she likes to do on a date

meet her with a grin and a peck on the cheek. be genuine

if she's right for you it'll flow like water if it aint - well whats a few hours...

no need to analize just get out there n practice
 
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Sandow said:
but the newbies need a structured set of rules and ideas to help them get off their crutches.
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This excuse has been said before... but if you notice, 90% of the 3+ pages of over-analyzing are done by members who have been here a long time.
 
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