"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Too much alcohol messes your game up

Die Hard

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I had my eyes on this particular girl and finally got a great chance to make her mine this weekend, but I messed it up because I got too drunk...

As I'm still walking at the beginning of the path towards becoming a DJ, I still need to consciously overrule all the AFC habits that pop up as soon as I try to run my game. You know what I mean, basically just the tendency to become nervous/shy and all the ways your behavior reflects this.. But I've become quite good at overruling these tendencies, I must say. But the thing is, I need to do this consciously..I need to take charge of myself and push myself into the DJ mood, I need to focus on that or else I'll just act like an AFC. To act like a DJ, I need to be in control of myself... But too much alcohol does the exact opposite... When I think back of that night and analyze my behaviour, I feel like facepalming continually. I broke all the rules that need to be followed in order to be succesful, I made all the wrong decisions in my approach to her.. She was very interested in me at the start, it was a "done deal", I just had to play it out right. But as the night progressed, she lost all her interest in me because I did everything wrong.

I'm writing it down so this thread can keep reminding me, and hopefully it's an extra reminder to others: TOO MUCH ALCOHOL TOTALLY RUINS YOUR GAME!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DJ Miquelo

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I agree with you there Die Hard.

Some people say that alcohol loosens you up and keeps you hyped up... perhaps a small amount but as you say, more than that? and you're asking for trouble! haha

I find alcohol doesnt positively influence my game at all!

Peace out
 

Scaramouche

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Dear Diehard,
The only problems I have had so far with erectile disfunction,were directly caused by alcohol....The immoral bard himself said of booze,"it doth improve the attraction and confound the performance"....as one third of Englishmen and a good few of us Anglos in other lands,are Shakespeares descendants then,you might say, he knew a thing or two.
 

taiyuu_otoko

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Jeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeesus CHRIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSTTTTTT

When I was in high school, (like a hundred years ago) I brought a freshman to the senior prom. Me and about three four friends (and our dates) rented a hotel. We had everything planned out.

We got to the hotel in the afternoon, filled the bathtub with ice and beer and champagne. Prom went great, all piled into my truck and rolled back to the hotel.

three four rooms had been rented by other high schoolers, as the hotel was cheap and near the ballroom where the prom was being held. So there were plenty of parties going on.

I could tell my date (who this smokin hot half Japanese girl) was sending me signals that it was ON. There was no doubt in my bones we were going to bone. Easy kissing, no flinching or resistance to my wandering hands during various drinking games.

then she got sick because she was having such a great time that she drank too much.

No pu$$y for me that night. But quite a fun experience neverthless.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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runner83

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I've always struggled with my drinking. I don't have a particular urge to drink, but in social situations, once I get going it's hard to stop.

It's perhaps partly genetic (my father and brother have the same problem), but in the end i have to take responsibility for my actions.

So, I've recently committed to go 60 days alcohol free. Done 6 so far and going fine.

Went out with my mates last Friday night, wasn't tempted to drink once (stuck to red bull / coke / water), acted as designated driver, got home and in bed by 4am, got up at 9am the next morning and felt fine!

Here's to hoping I manage to last the 60 days!
 

Jitterbug

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Other than losing control of yourself, alcohol also releases estrogen and decreases testosterone level. In other words, it makes you a b!tch.

Drink responsibly, Don Juan masters.
 

JustLurk

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Jitterbug said:
In other words, it makes you a b!tch.
:crackup:
Who would drink after reading this?
 

Rollo Tomassi

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Martinis are like t!ts, one's not enough, but three is too many.


Learning to sarge straight should come before sarging buzzed. Needing a drink to approach only helps you in a bar or a club, not many other places.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Die Hard

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Learning to sarge straight should come before sarging buzzed. Needing a drink to approach only helps you in a bar or a club, not many other places.
My thoughts exactly, and I'm gonna stick with it from now on. To be honest, there's a lot more to my story and as to why I wasn't able to pick this girl up... But I've decided to go and put that in a seperate thread:

http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1716342#post1716342
 
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