Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
High heels? Are you freaking kidding me? Yeah, don't worry about looking feminine wearing high heels.Luke Skywalker said:Well, my solution is simple, wear high heel boots or shoes and try spraying some stuff on if you have to.
a) This will increase your height because you are wearing high heels.
b) This will get attention and possibly make you look sexy, like you are not afraid of looking feminine because you are sure of your masculinity.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Snowman23 said:damn it's so hard to holler at girls when these buff ass tall guys are all around.
I don't care how much confidence I think I have, I'm good-looking and 5'8", and am dwarfed by these douches. I walk by girls and most don't even look at me, the ones that do just keep going. and it really sucks because I'm not bad looking.
it's such a huge hit to my ego. most of you are probly gonna say "oh quit being a pvssy, just approach them."
What, so I can get shot down?? rofl
As much as it pains me to say it.. and I mean PAINS me..
wutang is right.
end of discussion
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dude, it's not your height that's killing you, it's your horrible lack of confidence.Snowman23 said:damn it's so hard to holler at girls when these buff ass tall guys are all around.
I don't care how much confidence I think I have, I'm good-looking and 5'8", and am dwarfed by these douches. I walk by girls and most don't even look at me, the ones that do just keep going. and it really sucks because I'm not bad looking.
it's such a huge hit to my ego. most of you are probly gonna say "oh quit being a pvssy, just approach them."
What, so I can get shot down?? rofl
As much as it pains me to say it.. and I mean PAINS me..
wutang is right.
end of discussion
AKA FLEX said:Dude, it's not your height that's killing you, it's your horrible lack of confidence....
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How funny. I used to think like you until I saw a 5'5''ish guy, who wasn't even goodlooking, make out with a HB9 at a club. Me (being 5'10'') and another guy who was at least 6'3'' just stood around and watched him mack. YOU HAVE TO PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE!!!!Snowman23 said:damn it's so hard to holler at girls when these buff ass tall guys are all around.
I don't care how much confidence I think I have, I'm good-looking and 5'8", and am dwarfed by these douches. I walk by girls and most don't even look at me, the ones that do just keep going. and it really sucks because I'm not bad looking.
it's such a huge hit to my ego. most of you are probly gonna say "oh quit being a pvssy, just approach them."
What, so I can get shot down?? rofl
As much as it pains me to say it.. and I mean PAINS me..
wutang is right.
end of discussion
There are too many tall guys at clubs. I say we just eliminate them like Hitler did to that group in WWII. It would make my life alot easier.Snowman23 said:damn it's so hard to holler at girls when these buff ass tall guys are all around.
I don't care how much confidence I think I have, I'm good-looking and 5'8", and am dwarfed by these douches. I walk by girls and most don't even look at me, the ones that do just keep going. and it really sucks because I'm not bad looking.
it's such a huge hit to my ego. most of you are probly gonna say "oh quit being a pvssy, just approach them."
What, so I can get shot down?? rofl
As much as it pains me to say it.. and I mean PAINS me..
wutang is right.
end of discussion
Post of the day, right here.asid76 said:Use being short as part of the opener...like: "Does this necklace make me look short?" etc. Jokes work well; don't take everything so seriously.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You are missing the point. Your 5 foot 4 mate can pull chicks HE KNOWS from class and has the opportunity of being charming. Place him in a loud club in front of chicks he is meeting for the first time and I bet he strugglesAKA FLEX said:Dude, it's not your height that's killing you, it's your horrible lack of confidence.
I pulled less tail in college than my 5'4" buddy, and he's not even that great looking. He's just a charmer with the chicks.
You facetiously ask if you should approach chicks "so [you] can get shot down." My answer is YES YOU SHOULD. Every "no" is one step closer to a "yes", and I promise you that if you approach every decent-looking girl at the bar, one of them is going to go home with you. If you stand in the corner all night and mope about the tall guys, you're guaranteed to go home alone.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.