Too Laid Back?

[shaken_not_stirred]

I know chics dig the "i don't give a shvt" attitude, but is it possible to be too laid back? I think I tend towards this extreme. Rather than act like the desperate puppy dog, I tend to have the whatever goes, just chill, no expectations attitude on dates. Does this get interpreted as passiveness? Also, how the heck do you Kino a girl sitting across the table on a coffee shop date? Seems sorta hard to do and an ackward place to do it.

 

[DonJohn]

Probably the "laid back level" might depend on how succesfull you are. Are you achieving your pu -c related goals? If so, you are doing fine, if not, change the strategy by reducing your "laidbackness"

 

[Evangenlion]

i'm very laid back, however when u want pu-c , some work has to be down.

quote "I tend to have the whatever goes, just chill, no expectations attitude on dates. Does this get interpreted as passiveness?"

in some extent, very passive. to get something u have to act upon the situation. apply some of the methods. i think you fear looking needy.
i was so laided back that girls found me intimmedating (sp?). so i had apply some effort.

quote "Also, how the heck do you Kino a girl sitting across the table on a coffee shop date? Seems sorta hard to do and an ackward place to do it".

it may seem so, but it isn't really. what i would do, is grab a chair and dump it right next to her (risky? no confident). take a sit and lay back like i was a chair in my home. make sure you sit close enough that your knees touch (kino) and just talk like your friends, make her laugh, touch her shoulders and get her attracted to you.

someone here didn't read the bible did they? or haven't done enough research.

 

[Dr Box]

I really think the only way you could come across passive if you were going for laid back is if you were nervous. Also I am a big fan of sitting next to them at a coffee shop that way you dont have to reach across.

 

[shaken_not_stirred]

alright alright...thanks for the good ideas. i like the sitting next to idea. no, i haven't finished reading the DJ Bible yet.

 

[Q-Pid]

Doggy style isn't desperate! Some chicks dig it! They should be laid on their backs though - women on top can lead to butch chicks!

...oh wait.

 

[DJ4Real]

Being nonchalant is good. Don't be "passive nonchalant" though. Although you want to be cool and laidback, you must stand your ground if you need to. Remember, most women like men who are strong, being nonchalant and passive is not strong. Nonchalant and passive=doormat.

 

[Visceral]

"Don't give a fvck" refers to your reaction to the outcome, as in not getting pissed or desperate when she rejects you.

It can also refer to your attitude before the rejection, as in not obsessing over what she wants or how you think she wants to be treated and just going ahead and doing what you want, then either escalating or backing off based on her reaction.

You have to really want to get laid in order to be willing to jump through a woman's hoops. Most guys on here probably aren't interested in getting laid, though not necessarily in a gay way, since they don't do anything to bring about that outcome.