"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Too Early to Give My Phone # With On-line Chicks?

CanuckinSK

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In the last few days, I've been communicating with a couple of local women via an online-dating site. Both have children, both have pics, one I'm kinda attracted to, the other one I'm REALLY attracted to. One of them initiated contact with me out of the blue, while I sent an e-mail to the other one to initiate contact.

I tried using a bit of C+F, and it appears to have worked, so far at least. :up:I haven't posted my pic (which are proportionately much more attractive than my AFC personality)

1st girl:

Her- just thought I'd say hi
Me- well it's about time you contacted me

She's e-mailed me three times since.

2nd girl: (I'm really attracted to)

Mentioned in her profile she tries to avoid shovelling snow. We live in an area that usually gets TONS of snow.

Me- Jeez Louise girl, how do you live here and avoid shovelling snow? Please teach me the trick, I'd love to hear it! ;)

She sent back an e-mail which leads me to believe she thought I was pretty funny. (she put in LOL several times).

Here's my response, which I sent tonight:

Me- Great, excellent to hear that you have a little helper. (her son help her shovel). Here's what you should do next winter (yikes! it's only a couple months away...). Sit on your nice warm couch with a cup of hot chocolate as your son shovels your walk. Smile at him from your window and convey how warm you are inside. Pamper yourself a bit LOL! Yes, I know I'm a little wicked, but only in a good way... ;)

I'd like to continue chatting with you. Here's my e-mail address (I'm only signed up on this site for the three day trial membership, so I can't send messages after three days time).

Or better yet, call me at ***-****. Don't be shy...

I sent my phone # to the first girl too.

Also, what do think of this C+F? Girl #3 is definately a cougar, separated, in her early 40's.

Her profile- Kitty**, her tagline- Meow

Me- So tell me, what kind of kitty kat are you? Do you purr or bite when someone rubs your tummy?

Her- Lol, that's funny. I'm a good kitty kat. I purr when I'm happy.

What do you guys think? Was I too forward, funny/not funny? I was just being a total smartass (WAY out of character for me) and didn't really expect any responses anyway...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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jophil28

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You still sound like a "nice guy" trying to be C&F .

Who the F**K talks about hot chocolate !!

Avoid those Kitty Kat women too - there's something wroing with a grown woman calling herself Kitty *** ..
 

SaucyBoy

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Focus on meeting women in person. It's harder but it puts you in control. Sounds like she needs someone to shovel her driveway! You could wind up being free labor. Do you want that?
 

CanuckinSK

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SaucyBoy said:
Focus on meeting women in person. It's harder but it puts you in control. Sounds like she needs someone to shovel her driveway! You could wind up being free labor. Do you want that?
LOL! No, don't want to provide FREE labor, but I would take it out in trade with this chick. ;) And yes, I agree, I would much rather meet women in person; there's only so much that can be conveyed on-line.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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