Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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too drunk to remember what happened exactly...

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I saw an all chick Iron Maiden cover band last night, and somehow ended up chatting up a group of chicks. The one I ended up going for is a few years older than me, but is pretty good looking, maybe a 7.5, 8 or so. We hit it off really good at first, she gave me some contact info somewhere along the line, and showed medium/high IL. We were asking personal questions, kino, and her friends weren't cokblocking, and she's actually single.

I don't remember what happened, but we ended up pissed at each other. Twice, actually. I remember the first time she got mad about something, and later I came up to her and smoothed it over (for some reason, this usually turns out to be a good thing with me.) We talked some more, the band wasn't very good so it made it easy.

I ended up pissing her off again later, (I think it was me, it could have been her, but I doubt it, knowing my attitude) and I don't remember what it was about, probably something really stupid. I left the bar and went hom. I threw away the napkin she left her contact info on on the way. But... I remembered her name and found her myspace page this morning (she still looks good, too). I think I gave her my info . I know I told her that my band was playing the same bar next sunday, and told her our name and website, (she's a musician too, which is super cool) so I think she can find me IF she wants to.

I don't know if I should send her a message or not, or blow it off altogether. Now that I'm sober I realize whatever we were pissed about is stupid, and I would still go for it. She is 38, so hopefully she is mature. I kinda liked her.

Should I send her a message?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yep, send this - " PLease pick me up at 7 Thursday night and take me to an AA meeting ."
 

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I don't think that'd make a good date. I'd feel weird about trying to get her drunk if I did that!

Actually, I wasn't super-wasted. I was definitely drunk, though. I was just drinking beer, not doing shots or anything. I think I was at the point where I was being over-****y.
 

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woods said:
I don't think that'd make a good date. I'd feel weird about trying to get her drunk if I did that!

Actually, I wasn't super-wasted. I was definitely drunk, though. I was just drinking beer, not doing shots or anything. I think I was at the point where I was being over-****y.
The best part would be if she agreed, came and got you, then you told her "change of plans." And took her to a bar. ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Actually, thats not bad. Do you think if I re-worded that it might work?
 

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O.K. I did it!

"so... I need a date for my AA meeting on Thursday. You free?"

Fvck it! Lets see what happens!
 

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Cuz I fvckin felt like it!


Anyway, I got a response:

"I didn't know you could bring a date... that's cool! :) It's been a while since I have been to one!"

Now what?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Tell her to pick you up at 7PM on whatever day you choose.

Then when she picks you up, say "change of plans" and wink at her.

Then take her to a bar, and grab a drink.
 

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Been to one!?

Man looks like she has the problem. She actaully been to a AA meeting.

No wonder her friends didn't **** block, she is a regular misshap.

The plan was to get in the car and change the plan. End up in a bar.

I think you should really take her their and leave her at AA.
 

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ZenGodMod said:
Been to one!?

Man looks like she has the problem. She actaully been to a AA meeting.

No wonder her friends didn't **** block, she is a regular misshap.

The plan was to get in the car and change the plan. End up in a bar.

I think you should really take her their and leave her at AA.

She was probably JOKING.

Gosh.

But haha.
 

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Let's take a look....38? check. Myspace page? check. Argumentative and combative? check. Drunk? check. Musician? check. AA? check.


Bro it's like you won the lotto here.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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iqqi said:
Tell her to pick you up at 7PM on whatever day you choose.

Then when she picks you up, say "change of plans" and wink at her.

Then take her to a bar, and grab a drink.
You guys know the plan as well as I do - if you are doing the AA program you can't drink at all - what are you thinking ? IF you take her to a bar it is soda only .

I am going come over there and pick you up myself and take you to a meeting just so you stay sober. Sheesh !
Ha ha !
 

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persistent exaction said:
Let's take a look....38? check. Myspace page? check. Argumentative and combative? check. Drunk? check. Musician? check. AA? check.


Bro it's like you won the lotto here.
LOL I laughed.
 

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persistent exaction said:
Let's take a look....38? check. Myspace page? check. Argumentative and combative? check. Drunk? check. Musician? check. AA? check.


Bro it's like you won the lotto here.
:crackup:

For some reason the phrase, "Reduce. Reuse. Recycle." comes to mind. I dunno why.
 

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ZenGodMod said:
Been to one!?

Man looks like she has the problem. She actaully been to a AA meeting.

No wonder her friends didn't **** block, she is a regular misshap.

The plan was to get in the car and change the plan. End up in a bar.

I think you should really take her their and leave her at AA.
You don't know what the word JOKE means. Nuff said, no more advice from you.

persistent exaction said:
Let's take a look....38? check. Myspace page? check. Argumentative and combative? check. Drunk? check. Musician? check. AA? check.


Bro it's like you won the lotto here.

38 and still hot?
Im TOTALLY fine with that. Myspace page? Everyone with comp. access does, nothing wrong with that. Argumentive and combative? Not at all, actually. Where did you pull that out of?????. Drunk. Saturday night at 1AM? totally acceptable, and she wasn't anyway. Musician? How is that even an issue? I like that anyway, so you're lame! AA.She was totally joking, and if you can't see that, you're pathetic.

You guys are being pretty judgemental about someone going out and having fun on a Saturday night. She wasn't drunk, and she wasn't slutty.
Im sure if I get to know her I can find many VALID reasons for hating her, but you guys are fvcking retarded. I'm getting better advice from the CHICK on the forum, and that's pretty sad.

jophil28. First of all, LEARN HOW TO TAKE A JOKE. You were probably serious with the first AA thread! I thought it was a joke. You are in need of help much more than I or her. What are you, some straightedge queer? Or a cop? Do you think you're high and mighty because you dont party once in a while? Fvck you! How old are you again? Shut your pathetic ass up. Like I'm SUCH a LOSER because I enjoy my weekend. Fvck you, and fvck a kangaroo up the ass.
You dont know Me, or the chick I'm talking about. I've never seen her before, so she's not a huge barfly, so DON"T JUDGE, you aussie faggot!
 

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So anyway...Im not sure if I should respond with 1: Asking her if I was a diick and apologizing, 2: pretending it never happened or 3: pass the buck on to her, and making her out to be the ****.

Right now, I'm leaning towards the first. It's worked for me before.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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