Well I never had this problem before. My new girlfriend seemed ideal except she's relatively small and she hasn't been with too many men. (It) hurts her. Most of the time we have to stop. Is the relationship over? Or, to put it bluntly, can she be broken in?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Too big?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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I was with this chick who was kinda loose and she was like "my last boyfriend was so big that for a while all he did was stick it in and let it sit there. Eventually we could have sex"
penkitten
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dude, calm down. it can take a good hundred times for your bodies to figure each other out.
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More than likely it is muscle tensions/spams. The fact that she is not very experienced would also point to this.
Do a search for vaginismis (I have no idea of the proper spelling.)
Do a search for vaginismis (I have no idea of the proper spelling.)
ValleyDJing
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LMAO! :crackup:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Straight from a hor's mouth!!!!!!!!!!!!!!penkitten said:
Delta
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it might not work. it's happened before.
but... don't give up too soon. after all, as big as you may be, you got nothing on a baby's head forcing its way out.
it can accommodate quite a bit....
delta
but... don't give up too soon. after all, as big as you may be, you got nothing on a baby's head forcing its way out.
it can accommodate quite a bit....
delta
Thanks for the advice. I do think it's muscular because the last time she stayed over, I gave her a massage (before and after) and she said the massage hurt too. The slightest touch seems to hurt her. She's 27, was a virgin until 21 (despite being about an 8.5), and probably hasn't done many stretching exercises.
But now I'm jealous of all the small guys who are hitting on her at work....
But now I'm jealous of all the small guys who are hitting on her at work....
I feel your pain mate, it can be slow going but use a good splat of lube and take it slow and she'll relax to accomodate you. The important bit is to take it slow so you don't hurt her. In the mean time just make her *** 50 times a session by using your fingers or your tongue. Like my dad always said "Foreplay is not just the appetiser, but the main course and the dessert, sex is just the after dinner mint to finish the night off"
:crackup: That made my laugh out loud...very loud...a loud gaffaw evenValleyDJing said:
I tried to go slow, but she said "can you go faster?". Then when I went faster I go the Ow-uh-oh.
She said a guy should only move his pelvic muscles, not the rest of his body and not her. She wants Elvis on meth. Is that true about only moving your pelvis?
She said a guy should only move his pelvic muscles, not the rest of his body and not her. She wants Elvis on meth. Is that true about only moving your pelvis?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Ok, I can suggest a few things to try here. If the reason she wants you to go faster is because she isn't getting enough pleasure with you going slow, then use your hand to stimulate her **** as you are inside of her. Then you can keep going at a less rapid pace and she will be enjoying the experience until she relaxes enough for you to go at it harder.bigneil said:
Another thing I like to do is grip my shaft so that I only go half way in, I can use my thumb on her **** and angle myself so that I can hit different angles (like the G or apply pressure to one side of the vaginal wall then the other, then the G then the floor)
Try some different positions like putting her legs over your shoulders so that she is lying with her arse in the air a bit, you will have a straighter path to work with then.
Or lie behind her with her bent over, sort of like doggy but lying on your sides. you will be able to comfortably reach around then (and play her like the double bassoon).
Also it might be worthwhile letting her ride you, that way she can control the angle, depth and speed.
No it isn't true, tell her to stop watching those black-on-blonde movies, those brothers have double jointed hips
Although I would recommend a bit of hip wiggling to hit some different spots, driving a girl like a piston isn't very pleasurable. Not that any of that is helpful to you in your particular problem.and finally, now I can't stress this enough...USE LUBE...LOTS OF IT...fill her with half the bottle if you have to and use a gel, not the liquid stuff.
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you dirty hopenkitten said: