"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Too ask her or not to ask her, that is the question

leeman67

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There is a 22 year old girl that works part time at a local convient store near my home. We have really seemed to hit it off. I came in the store one day and she snuck up behind me & scared the ...... out of me. We have very strong eye contact with each other from the time we see each other till we leave.

I have to say I also find her very attractive, but being a mid 30's guy, I feel like I would be robbing the craddle.


She told me just today that she goes on fall break, but will be back next week.


Being a guy who is trying to still work on self confidence. Would this be a wise decision?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Vincent

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You're 15 years older then her. She could almost be your daughter.

Remember that.
 

Don_Marko

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Hey nothing wrong with that... I'm sure when I'm 37 I'll be banging the hot 20 something year olds! It's completely OK to be attracted to youth and beauty!

WTF is the dilemma here? Uhm you dont ask her you go back to watching porns or maybe boning some fat middle aged mommy, and if you do ask her you have a chance at something beautiful (she is hot right?) If worse comes to worst you can just start shopping elsewhere or just ignore her.
 

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there is nothing wrong with being attracted to a younger women. Some girls like older men because they represent something more mature and stable in their eyes.

I'd say so far your doing good. No need to worry about confidence...she's already made the first move (snuck up on you). Just play it cool and the vibes you send back to her will be the right ones.
 

Climax

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my 2c

Originally posted by ecvegas
there is nothing wrong with being attracted to a younger women. Some girls like older men because they represent something more mature and stable in their eyes.

I'd say so far your doing good. No need to worry about confidence...she's already made the first move (snuck up on you). Just play it cool and the vibes you send back to her will be the right ones.
Well said....

and just to add: Next time you see her, get a convo going with her, and before u part ways, take her number down. Then text her the next day or 2 days later asking how things are with her etc. Then the next time u see her, arrange to meet with her for lunch or something to get to know one another better, and then after that you should know what to do and/or if things with this girl will work out or not.


Laterz...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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biker_gixxer

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Go for it. Make sure to take lots of pictures and feel free to send them to me. haha :D
 

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I think someon here said something Like

U should not be thinking what the gurl is thinking or what her situations is, etc.. But rather if u want her or not...

-SeSaR
 

Freeman

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Originally posted by Sesar
I think someon here said something Like

U should not be thinking what the gurl is thinking or what her situations is, etc.. But rather if u want her or not...

-SeSaR
Well said-when you're talking to a chick dont have the mindset that she is doing you a favor-she is not-you are doing her the favor-what can she do for you-if the girl doesnt have what you want then leave her alone-dont think twice about it-leave her alone...
 
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