"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Tomorrow I'm going to approach

itishe

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Hey folks, tomorrow I'm going to approach this big-tittied & big-bootied ***** I've wanted to **** for atleast two years now. She's given me her number in the past, but I never called. I've felt her up, but I never ****ed her. But now I'm going in for the kill.

I know she's got some interest in me, she randomly came up to me in the hallway as I walked by, gave me this very suggestive greeting and grabbed my arm and smiled. Looked like she wanted my hammer right then and there.

I'll be partying tomorrow night and want to invite her so I can perhaps isolate her and go for the kill. Think it's best to stop her when she walks by and say, "hey Amber, what are you doing tonight". She'll say, "I don't know". "Well, how about you come party with me tonight?".

She'll give me some answer, I don't care what it is, then I'll say, "well give me your number so I can call you sometime".

Then I hope my ex finds out then cries like the fat whale she is.

Bada bing!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Went to her when she's at her locker.

"Amber"
"hey"
"hey what's going on?"
"nothing"
"Say what are you doing tonight?"
"Ohhhh I don't know"
"Well I'm going to party, want to come with"
"I don't know, where at"
"I'm not sure there are a couple places, give me your number"
"xxx-xxxx, give me yours too so I can call you sometime"

Bada bing.
 

itishe

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Called her about 10:30, had a light conversation, and she told me she was going to stay in because he mom was going through a hard time or some ****. She was apologizing, but I just said, "Alright, I'll talk to ya later".

Got another girls number via MSN that same night.
 

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My plan from here:

Wait a week. If she does not call or ask me about doing something before the wednesday after next, I will invite her to do something on a friday night. If she flakes again I will not make contact again.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You seem to have it good from here, brother.

If she flakes, lose the number.

Well done on the approach, by the way.
 

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I think she is going to flake again. An she is most likely not going to call. Ask yourself this, when you got her # what reason does she have to speak to you or even go out with you. You both barely even talked, and there was nothing that really made you different from everyone else.

This number wasn't solid at all.
 

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I figure one thing I got over other guys is that I actually gave her some attention. I never see anyone in my grade (besides a girl or two) hanging out with her, nor does anyone ever mention her in their weekend stories.

Anywho, it's not a big deal, I'm starting to hang out with numerous different girls. If she calls, awesome. If not then whoopty do it's not my loss.

Either way, I found my nuts and got a number.
 

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itishe said:
Hey folks, tomorrow I'm going to approach this big-tittied & big-bootied ***** I've wanted to **** for atleast two years now. She's given me her number in the past, but I never called. I've felt her up, but I never ****ed her. But now I'm going in for the kill.

I know she's got some interest in me, she randomly came up to me in the hallway as I walked by, gave me this very suggestive greeting and grabbed my arm and smiled. Looked like she wanted my hammer right then and there.

I'll be partying tomorrow night and want to invite her so I can perhaps isolate her and go for the kill. Think it's best to stop her when she walks by and say, "hey Amber, what are you doing tonight". She'll say, "I don't know". "Well, how about you come party with me tonight?".

She'll give me some answer, I don't care what it is, then I'll say, "well give me your number so I can call you sometime".

Then I hope my ex finds out then cries like the fat whale she is.

Bada bing!
Well done!

You considered she maybe shy and she really likes you>?
Is that hard to imagine, that she may not have the balls to phone you>?
Girls are shy too you know.

Give it a few days, ring her and ask her out, if she plays hard ball, ask her if she is shy, nothing better then being ****y and full of it and calling her on it by flipping this around.

My money is on she is shy and is making excuses due to reasons around that!

Go for it, she give her the correct number, she talked to you on the phone she even had the decency to be civil, this is not a girl with low intrest, this is a possibility so see where it ends, but dont end it this way, it is far from over :D

Consider it practice!

As for flaking it is not such a big deal as some people think, relax chill and try again when ever you feel comfortable.

Also there is a weak game plan here, next timne you ask her out have some place specific or two.

Take her to see a film, or why not go ask her if she would like some company and a video at her place?
 
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