"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Tomorrow I'm going to approach

itishe

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Hey folks, tomorrow I'm going to approach this big-tittied & big-bootied ***** I've wanted to **** for atleast two years now. She's given me her number in the past, but I never called. I've felt her up, but I never ****ed her. But now I'm going in for the kill.

I know she's got some interest in me, she randomly came up to me in the hallway as I walked by, gave me this very suggestive greeting and grabbed my arm and smiled. Looked like she wanted my hammer right then and there.

I'll be partying tomorrow night and want to invite her so I can perhaps isolate her and go for the kill. Think it's best to stop her when she walks by and say, "hey Amber, what are you doing tonight". She'll say, "I don't know". "Well, how about you come party with me tonight?".

She'll give me some answer, I don't care what it is, then I'll say, "well give me your number so I can call you sometime".

Then I hope my ex finds out then cries like the fat whale she is.

Bada bing!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Went to her when she's at her locker.

"Amber"
"hey"
"hey what's going on?"
"nothing"
"Say what are you doing tonight?"
"Ohhhh I don't know"
"Well I'm going to party, want to come with"
"I don't know, where at"
"I'm not sure there are a couple places, give me your number"
"xxx-xxxx, give me yours too so I can call you sometime"

Bada bing.
 

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Called her about 10:30, had a light conversation, and she told me she was going to stay in because he mom was going through a hard time or some ****. She was apologizing, but I just said, "Alright, I'll talk to ya later".

Got another girls number via MSN that same night.
 

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My plan from here:

Wait a week. If she does not call or ask me about doing something before the wednesday after next, I will invite her to do something on a friday night. If she flakes again I will not make contact again.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You seem to have it good from here, brother.

If she flakes, lose the number.

Well done on the approach, by the way.
 

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I think she is going to flake again. An she is most likely not going to call. Ask yourself this, when you got her # what reason does she have to speak to you or even go out with you. You both barely even talked, and there was nothing that really made you different from everyone else.

This number wasn't solid at all.
 

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I figure one thing I got over other guys is that I actually gave her some attention. I never see anyone in my grade (besides a girl or two) hanging out with her, nor does anyone ever mention her in their weekend stories.

Anywho, it's not a big deal, I'm starting to hang out with numerous different girls. If she calls, awesome. If not then whoopty do it's not my loss.

Either way, I found my nuts and got a number.
 

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itishe said:
Hey folks, tomorrow I'm going to approach this big-tittied & big-bootied ***** I've wanted to **** for atleast two years now. She's given me her number in the past, but I never called. I've felt her up, but I never ****ed her. But now I'm going in for the kill.

I know she's got some interest in me, she randomly came up to me in the hallway as I walked by, gave me this very suggestive greeting and grabbed my arm and smiled. Looked like she wanted my hammer right then and there.

I'll be partying tomorrow night and want to invite her so I can perhaps isolate her and go for the kill. Think it's best to stop her when she walks by and say, "hey Amber, what are you doing tonight". She'll say, "I don't know". "Well, how about you come party with me tonight?".

She'll give me some answer, I don't care what it is, then I'll say, "well give me your number so I can call you sometime".

Then I hope my ex finds out then cries like the fat whale she is.

Bada bing!
Well done!

You considered she maybe shy and she really likes you>?
Is that hard to imagine, that she may not have the balls to phone you>?
Girls are shy too you know.

Give it a few days, ring her and ask her out, if she plays hard ball, ask her if she is shy, nothing better then being ****y and full of it and calling her on it by flipping this around.

My money is on she is shy and is making excuses due to reasons around that!

Go for it, she give her the correct number, she talked to you on the phone she even had the decency to be civil, this is not a girl with low intrest, this is a possibility so see where it ends, but dont end it this way, it is far from over :D

Consider it practice!

As for flaking it is not such a big deal as some people think, relax chill and try again when ever you feel comfortable.

Also there is a weak game plan here, next timne you ask her out have some place specific or two.

Take her to see a film, or why not go ask her if she would like some company and a video at her place?
 
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