Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Do t take the pissYes. Sat right next to a female, no HB rating what so ever. Sat next to her for 2 hours. Next to no talking. She leaves bar. 10 minuites later she call bar and has bartender give me her number. Never called because of her HB rating being so low.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This method works when every guy in the bar is ignoring the women. It forces them out of their usual "i pick and choose," mentality because there is nothing to pick from.Any one listen to Tom leykis famous dj he advice is go to a bar completely ignore women , talk to the bar tender watch sports but don't look at women and they will approach you , any one tried his method ?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
So what happend at the gym did they approach you ?Yeah worked for me in the past before I even knew about game. I would go to cafe's and sports bars solo, sit in a corner or off to the side somewhere by myself. Even at the gym its worked for me. Like el payaso says they crave attention and enjoy the challenge.
Yeah, but what if you're not someone she wants attention from? You can't tell every poster on this thread to go to a bar, ignore every woman there, and we'll all be banging a HB 7+ an hour later.The less attention a man gives a woman, the more she craves it.
Yep. If you're her type, she wants attention. If you're not her type, she WANTS you to ignore her and mind your own business.Yeah, but what if you're not someone she wants attention from? You can't tell every poster on this thread to go to a bar, ignore every woman there, and we'll all be banging a HB 7+ an hour later.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.