"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Told her we had to wait

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So basically theres this gal who knew i liked her, and since shes known ive kinda ignored her, and not called/text her much and on msn ive been short and left quite soon after shes initiated the convo!

Anyway i was on msn tonight and we had our 1st proper chat, about things since then, i said she had changed and i preferred silly (her name) coz thats what made her cute, this was after she told me she had matured lately!

She said "Fine, well ill see what i can do about that, coz i dont like being normal"

Then i had to go, and i told her, but just before i did the subject of liking her came up and she said "whenever that is mentioned you always seem to have to go"

I said "well tbh i prefer not to keep the football and cold beer i have waiting, but you have your exams and stuff coming up and maybe we should wait till after then and well hang out and see what happens"

She said "well its all upto you, but just so you know my exams dont finish till end of july"

so i said "i know and who knows things might of changed by then, but your exams and stuff are important, and you have a bf (she calls nothing serious), so unless you really wanna give us a chance now and hang out soon, i suggest we wait, anyway i g2g so text me if you have anything to say bye x"

this gal before she got her non serious bf told me that she didnt want anything serious because her exams and stuff meant this was a big year for her!

i think i acted muture and not bothered here? what do you think?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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you handled it ok..definately didnt screw anything up...

Girls have a great sense for this stuff and if you shy away from laying it out on the table, and keep pretending to be hard to get,she will pick up on it and think you are insecure.

She wants it, you want it. Why play games? The only reason would be that you're afraid to **** stuff up. But this just shows you that you need to be less validation seeking... Shes a hot girl. your the man. she wants you. why run?


Right now she is feeling attraction for you, she has communicated this to you, but atraction is just a feeling and someone could come along tomorrow and change that feeling. If i were you I would strike while the iron is hot and both of you win.
 

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So i think ive made a mistake now!

I was chatting to her again on msn, and she was asking me about something she needed advice on (nothing major, she wanted to know which pic was better to put up on her wall (pic was of her and 2 friends, and it was the same pic twice, with live a different backround))

Anyway, she had to go, and i stupidly said "i still wanna talk to ya about me liking you, so u dont think im shying away from it, bye"

she replied "ok well text me anytime or next time were on here xx"

then she went, how do i deal with this? ive made a mistake i think

i was thinking just say "are you adventurous?" if she replys yes just say "well keep next saturday free, were going on an adventure"

what do ya think?
 

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Originally posted by Jizz
"i still wanna talk to ya about me liking you, so u dont think im shying away from it, bye"
wot does that mean? U said u still wanna talk about it but u end the sentence with "bye" that doesnt make sense :confused:
 

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she had to go, her dinner was ready and we were on msn (i no stupid)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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