"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Told her we had to wait

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So basically theres this gal who knew i liked her, and since shes known ive kinda ignored her, and not called/text her much and on msn ive been short and left quite soon after shes initiated the convo!

Anyway i was on msn tonight and we had our 1st proper chat, about things since then, i said she had changed and i preferred silly (her name) coz thats what made her cute, this was after she told me she had matured lately!

She said "Fine, well ill see what i can do about that, coz i dont like being normal"

Then i had to go, and i told her, but just before i did the subject of liking her came up and she said "whenever that is mentioned you always seem to have to go"

I said "well tbh i prefer not to keep the football and cold beer i have waiting, but you have your exams and stuff coming up and maybe we should wait till after then and well hang out and see what happens"

She said "well its all upto you, but just so you know my exams dont finish till end of july"

so i said "i know and who knows things might of changed by then, but your exams and stuff are important, and you have a bf (she calls nothing serious), so unless you really wanna give us a chance now and hang out soon, i suggest we wait, anyway i g2g so text me if you have anything to say bye x"

this gal before she got her non serious bf told me that she didnt want anything serious because her exams and stuff meant this was a big year for her!

i think i acted muture and not bothered here? what do you think?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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you handled it ok..definately didnt screw anything up...

Girls have a great sense for this stuff and if you shy away from laying it out on the table, and keep pretending to be hard to get,she will pick up on it and think you are insecure.

She wants it, you want it. Why play games? The only reason would be that you're afraid to **** stuff up. But this just shows you that you need to be less validation seeking... Shes a hot girl. your the man. she wants you. why run?


Right now she is feeling attraction for you, she has communicated this to you, but atraction is just a feeling and someone could come along tomorrow and change that feeling. If i were you I would strike while the iron is hot and both of you win.
 

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So i think ive made a mistake now!

I was chatting to her again on msn, and she was asking me about something she needed advice on (nothing major, she wanted to know which pic was better to put up on her wall (pic was of her and 2 friends, and it was the same pic twice, with live a different backround))

Anyway, she had to go, and i stupidly said "i still wanna talk to ya about me liking you, so u dont think im shying away from it, bye"

she replied "ok well text me anytime or next time were on here xx"

then she went, how do i deal with this? ive made a mistake i think

i was thinking just say "are you adventurous?" if she replys yes just say "well keep next saturday free, were going on an adventure"

what do ya think?
 

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Originally posted by Jizz
"i still wanna talk to ya about me liking you, so u dont think im shying away from it, bye"
wot does that mean? U said u still wanna talk about it but u end the sentence with "bye" that doesnt make sense :confused:
 

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she had to go, her dinner was ready and we were on msn (i no stupid)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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