"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Told her to call me

scottfall

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Hey guys, need some help here..

I met a girl online monday night. Went over to her place, had a few drinks, messed around and then fell asleep together. I was getting really good vibes from her all night, she seemed really interested, wanted to know what I was doing the next day.. if I could stay the night. Well, the next day I get up.. hang out get dressed and smoke a cig while shes still in bed (she had a meeting that afternoon). Before I leave I give her a kiss goodbye and tell her to call me, she said she would. Didnt hear from her tuesday.. sent her a myspace friend request wednesday morning (she accepted it that night). Havent heard from her since tuesday morning. Just wondering if Im going to hear back from her or if I may have came off as needy.. telling her to call me and sending the friend request wednesday morning.

Thanks guys!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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HolyG

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You call girls, cause even if they're interested, 95% of the time they won't call you.
 

scottfall

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sooo... should i call her tomorrow or wait until the weekend is over?
 

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wait til the weekend is over. dont make yourself too ready available.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Thanks for the advice guys.

I regret telling her to call me. I thought about what to say while she was in bed and telling her to call me seemed like the way to go. Live and learn.
 

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OK, well I called her friday night, got forwarded to voicemail (after one ring). I got onto the same site I met her last night, and she was online. I sent her a message.. she responded. I asked her if she wanted to hang out, she said not tonight. And then I lost it. I asked if I was "barking up the wrong tree" - no response and then I said "well, you have my #" and left it at that.

Bah, o well... ill message her again in a couple of weeks if I dont hear anything from her.
 

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scottfall said:
OK, well I called her friday night, got forwarded to voicemail (after one ring). I got onto the same site I met her last night, and she was online. I sent her a message.. she responded. I asked her if she wanted to hang out, she said not tonight. And then I lost it. I asked if I was "barking up the wrong tree" - no response and then I said "well, you have my #" and left it at that.

Bah, o well... ill message her again in a couple of weeks if I dont hear anything from her.
Aight man this is where u semi screwed up..
You should have not lost it:nono: . Sorry man but a DJ keeps his cool..and plus u gave her more power when u said "You have my number"
Its all good man this time if she does ask u to hang out YOU be the one to say that your busy!
 
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