"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Today's Woman: Monogamy vs. Female DJ

Dash Riprock

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I've been asking some of my platonic gf's about today's dating scene; if they like it, quality of guys, if they would rather just find one guy and focus on him or if they "enjoy" playing the field ala male DJ's. Seeing this is a "mature" board, let's focus on women over 25 or closer to 30 y.o.

Curious what DJ thoughts are on this topic.

Today's Female (25-35 y.o.): Monogamy all the way or Monogamy no-way, I'm a female DJ ??

Thoughts? What are you hearing from your chick buds?

Dash
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ThunderMaverick

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It's been mixed all around. I get girls who say they want to play the field and not be exclusive. Of course these are coming from girls who have been in LTRs and have been burned badly by exes.

The ones who say "monogamy all the way" are usually virgins or ones who haven't been in too many relationships. Funny, because I think after so many relationships, the virgins are going to be screaming about how they love to play the field.

Hahaha. Are men and women REALLY that good for each other anymore?
 

Drum&Bass

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ALL Women want to find 1 guy who has money (so she doesn't have to contribute any), looks good, tall, gives great sex and willing to do what she says to a certain extent but makes the decisions when it comes to maintaining money and lifestyle.

I'm not sure how I feel about women these days..I don't want to say I'm jaded because I can recognize good qualities in a girl whom compliments my life very well but they don't seem willing to commit to me other than fun and sex...
 

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The majority of them are pretty open about wanting to settle down. The rest put on the "I'm an independent woman, hear me roar" front, but if you look deeper you can tell these women want the same.
 

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I don't know man, I chase women who don't want a relationship, that way I can blame them for me not being in a relationship ....

so I guess I meet all the chicks who don't want one ! !

:rockon:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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