"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Today i learned my lesson. ALL Women are goldigers!

Plain & Simple

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wyld got a reputation of arguments and starting **** up and twisting threads up, ive read a couple of them, like the one about putting girls in an emotional ride, so im not surprised
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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man..are u kidding me?

ive been with my girl for 3 months...

not counting gas!

Ive probably spent 350 to 500 hundred..over this time..going out, drinks, food, fun, her B day.

she has spent maybe 150 to 200...so what?

im a man....I should pay.....for the most part.


she gives me things in return.

love
happines
laughter
companionship
sex
mostly affection and attention.

she doesnt ask for me to buy her anything.but I love her and want her to be happy.

but I can tell you..weve spent 12 to 15 nights in the last 3 months.spendning NO money..together

Muny
zoo
park
my house
her house
just sitting in bed talking, making love.


it seems ur relationship is CONDITIONAL not UNCONDITIONAL!
 

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You know you've found a good g/f when she offers to buy stuff for you...but c'mon, don't ask for it. that's weak.

And stop buying stuff for HER. Damn kid, if you gotta take money out of your savings to do stuff....then don't do stuff as much. And if she leaves you, so be it, she wasn't for you.

By the way, I agree with everything Wyldfire has said.
 

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Originally posted by Plain & Simple


Thats some total bull**** right there, cause ive bought her like 3 pair of $90 sneakers bracelets, earrings, and when we go out i end up paying 90% of the spenses if not 100%, and now that for the first time i want something she says hell no, ive never asked her for anything in the past.

My gf either pays her share right there at the dinner table or i'll say "i'll put it on my card" and there's the understanding that next time it's hers.

I paid for a movie the other day. On the way in she says "do you want popcorn" implying she'd buy it. I decline, but on the way home after the movie she asks if i'm hungry and i say "yeah but if we're gonna go out to eat, you're up" and she says "yep." Afterwards i say "thanks for dinner" and she says "sure thanks for the movie."

I can go on and on. She buys her own drinks at bars and often buys a couple for me without any prompting. We finished my bottle of vodka last night in my apt and she said "i'll get the next bottle" without me even asking.

It's been this way from the very beginning. I just NEVER offered to foot her share of things for her and she naturally was just thought "oh he expects me to carry my own weight." I have no idea what her views on men paying for women are, and I don't care because it's my money and i'll spend it how i please.

My girlfriend before my current one was from a well to do family and while didn't have a ton of money to throw around, her parents supplied her enough (we were both in college) that she just paid for BOTH of us about 70% of the time. I coulda paid for myself just fine but she liked to do it and i don't mind saving myself some money if she has more than me to begin with through luck of birth.



Black_Italian

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What the hell?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This is a classic "nice guy" mistake - you don't have to buy her anything, but if you choose to then you can't complain at her or hold it over her head like a debt.

It sounds like material gifts are causing way too much friction in your relationship. Maybe you should agree not to buy things for each other any more.
 

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Originally posted by DreamyChick
Ditto for me. I always offer to pay my way with a guy. I don't like feeling like I owe anything.
It's worth noting this point. A lot of "nice guys" have a manipulative way of making women feel like they owe something in return, so you'll either scare her off or you'll get taken for a ride (and deservedly so).
 

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no, im not a sucker..I choose to do this..she offers everytime....when I feel she needs to pay....then I let her.


also I make 3 times more than she does....and she works fulltime in the summer making 7.50 an hour..yes I said 3 times....

when she graduates this yr and makes the big bucks..she can pay half the mortgage :)


its a personal investment..its not material things I buy her..

the last girl I was with from March to May..I didnt buy anything because I didnt care.
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
no, im not a sucker..I choose to do this..she offers everytime....when I feel she needs to pay....then I let her.


also I make 3 times more than she does....and she works fulltime in the summer making 7.50 an hour..yes I said 3 times....

when she graduates this yr and makes the big bucks..she can pay half the mortgage :)


its a personal investment..its not material things I buy her..

the last girl I was with from March to May..I didnt buy anything because I didnt care.

None of that has anything to do with the statement I quoted.

You said as the guy you should pay for the most part. You didn't say "i make lots more than her so i happily pay extra." You didn't say "i really want to pay for her because it brings me pleasure!" You said just because you're the man you should pay more. Why?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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why?

because I am the leader, protector and provider.


I Know everyone says its not 1950.

its not..so im not providing everything...but so far its been about 70/30 me in monetary value.

I think thats right for the man to provide mroe than her....

no one can tell me its not easier for the guy to make a living with a higher paying job.


it is.
 

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I never thought of it like that, she never asked me to buy her anything, i just bough it for her, like one time she said that she saw some sneakers at footaction and i went and got them for her.

I guess im choosing to buy it so i cant hold that against her.

Hmmm interesting how i never saw it that way until this thread...

samething with the money i took out my savings, she didnt mention nothing about going out, i was the one who said lets go out, and she told me right away i only got 7 dollars, i said dont worry about the money i got it.

Many timesshe offers to pay but i dont let her cause i feel like its my responsability to pay since im the man, even when she asks me and i know i want whateve she is offering me i say no, outta pride, cause i feel weird letting my gf buy stuff for me.

Dang...
 

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Originally posted by Plain & Simple

Thats some total bull**** right there, cause ive bought her like 3 pair of $90 sneakers bracelets, earrings, and when we go out i end up paying 90% of the spenses if not 100%, and now that for the first time i want something she says hell no, ive never asked her for anything in the past.
A real DJ has his girlfriend buying him stuff, not the other way around!
 
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