"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Today i hit 30 days of NoFap

Infern0

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 11, 2015
Messages
1,637
Reaction score
1,462
After a year on and off since my 90 day streak.

All i can say is **** that habit

Porn has to go man, drains you, gives you brain fog, makes you lazy

Literally do not miss it at all.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Desdinova

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 15, 2004
Messages
11,680
Reaction score
4,874
This is something I've been thinking about lately. I must ask though... What is the purpose of giving it up. I'm not talking about porn (I don't own any), I just mean fapping.
 

Infern0

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 11, 2015
Messages
1,637
Reaction score
1,462
This is something I've been thinking about lately. I must ask though... What is the purpose of giving it up. I'm not talking about porn (I don't own any), I just mean fapping.
Fapping by itself isn't a huge problem it's mostly the porn so unless you are jerking off a lot you are probably fine.
 

TheMonkeyKing

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 20, 2014
Messages
2,327
Reaction score
1,419
I'm day three now. Determined to give it a proper go this time round. Like, at least a month as well. Had a moment of weakness last night and checked a few pictures online. But moved away as soon as something started stirring.

I need further motivation and energy to go out and pull something real. I usually start feeling really on edge by day 5. So by the time the weekend rolls round I should be in the mood to displace some surplus energy. This, in addition to my new found sobriety will work wonders.

What is the purpose of giving it up.
Different for everyone. And there's little or no evidence to suggest weather effects are chemical or psychological / placebo. But some things I notice personally....

-Increase in energy, especially in the gym.
-Increased mental focus and improved attention span.
-Increased sensitivity and size downstairs.
-More checking out women, and they check me out more.
-More positive and stable mood.
 

Infern0

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 11, 2015
Messages
1,637
Reaction score
1,462
I'm day three now. Determined to give it a proper go this time round. Like, at least a month as well. Had a moment of weakness last night and checked a few pictures online. But moved away as soon as something started stirring.

I need further motivation and energy to go out and pull something real. I usually start feeling really on edge by day 5. So by the time the weekend rolls round I should be in the mood to displace some surplus energy. This, in addition to my new found sobriety will work wonders.


Different for everyone. And there's little or no evidence to suggest weather effects are chemical or psychological / placebo. But some things I notice personally....

-Increase in energy, especially in the gym.
-Increased mental focus and improved attention span.
-Increased sensitivity and size downstairs.
-More checking out women, and they check me out more.
-More positive and stable mood.
From a bro who has done 90 days.

The REAL benefits arrive day 50-60

yes it takes THAT long
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

JohnChops

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 9, 2012
Messages
2,734
Reaction score
481
Location
No more keyboard jockeying . Action is the place.
Fapping by itself isn't a huge problem it's mostly the porn so unless you are jerking off a lot you are probably fine.
I've gone 100+ days with no porn and no jerking it. My issue is, eventually I lost.my ability to hold/get erections. It was the oddest thing. Then after I jerked it, boom, morning wood, horniness and erections are stronger than ever. No idea why that happened but it is something to be aware of.
 

Milano

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 21, 2016
Messages
357
Reaction score
251
Age
38
This is very interesting. I notice that when I watch porn and masturbate, my soul gets drained and I feel week. If I masturbate without watching porn, I also feel drained, but I recover faster and the next day I am also horny. It somehow feels like the act of watching something waaaay too stimulating is too taxing for the brain, yet it is smart enough to not reward you as you didnt actually have sex.
 

BetterCallSaul

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 25, 2014
Messages
855
Reaction score
373
Location
Texas
I think every guy is a little different. I would recommend getting rid of porn, but going no fap? Let that be a personal decision. Some guys have reported that it takes a couple months to see the real benefits...I can sort of confirm this myself. The thinking is that it forces your brain to reset sort of from no longer having the exposure to porn that it became used to. I can NOT report any sort of success with going no porn and no fap and having miraculous rock hard erections like I had when I was 17. So if you think that'll happen if you do all this, think again.
 

BetterCallSaul

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 25, 2014
Messages
855
Reaction score
373
Location
Texas
I'm day three now. Determined to give it a proper go this time round. Like, at least a month as well. Had a moment of weakness last night and checked a few pictures online. But moved away as soon as something started stirring.

I need further motivation and energy to go out and pull something real. I usually start feeling really on edge by day 5. So by the time the weekend rolls round I should be in the mood to displace some surplus energy. This, in addition to my new found sobriety will work wonders.


Different for everyone. And there's little or no evidence to suggest weather effects are chemical or psychological / placebo. But some things I notice personally....

-Increase in energy, especially in the gym.
-Increased mental focus and improved attention span.
-Increased sensitivity and size downstairs.
-More checking out women, and they check me out more.
-More positive and stable mood.
If you're having a hard time adjusting from hardcore porn, try gradually reducing that. So instead, for the first few days, only look at pics of naked chicks. Then stop doing that later on.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

TheMonkeyKing

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 20, 2014
Messages
2,327
Reaction score
1,419
If you're having a hard time adjusting from hardcore porn, try gradually reducing that. So instead, for the first few days, only look at pics of naked chicks. Then stop doing that later on.
It's actually the reverse. The hard stuff doesn't bother me so much. It's the softer photos of the 9's and 10's that appeal more. Shouldn't be too bad. I think of all my vices this should be one of the easier to knock on the head, so long as I find other outlets, so to speak :D
 

resilient

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 15, 2005
Messages
1,636
Reaction score
1,366
With porn use, you over-exposure the brain with pleasure chemicals like dopamine, seratonin, oxytocin, and epinephrine. (Infographic) So in a sense, you're tricking your brain into thinking it's meeting its sex need for love and belonging. The fapping decreases motivation to approach or take care of 'needs' with plate(s).
 

Infern0

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 11, 2015
Messages
1,637
Reaction score
1,462
I think every guy is a little different. I would recommend getting rid of porn, but going no fap? Let that be a personal decision. Some guys have reported that it takes a couple months to see the real benefits...I can sort of confirm this myself. The thinking is that it forces your brain to reset sort of from no longer having the exposure to porn that it became used to. I can NOT report any sort of success with going no porn and no fap and having miraculous rock hard erections like I had when I was 17. So if you think that'll happen if you do all this, think again.
Im no porn forever

Im doing nofap for 90 days because for quitting porn you kinda have to get rid of fapping too or youll just think about porn.

After 90 ill fap if i want
 

wifehunter

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 6, 2015
Messages
5,145
Reaction score
3,302
Age
52
Location
Hoe County, California
 

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 14, 2014
Messages
5,747
Reaction score
2,964
Age
27
Location
Right behind you
I've gone 100+ days with no porn and no jerking it. My issue is, eventually I lost.my ability to hold/get erections. It was the oddest thing. Then after I jerked it, boom, morning wood, horniness and erections are stronger than ever. No idea why that happened but it is something to be aware of.
Yeah I'm kinda the same. Like if I put in my mind that I'm not gonna fap or do anything, I don't even get random boners anymore. Like even if I see a hot chick I won't even get aroused. But I think it was just the mental aspect of me having to stop. If I go NoFap without thinking about it (like say a few weeks just because it never really crosses my mind to jerk it) then I can still get hard.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

homie

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 5, 2017
Messages
112
Reaction score
52
Age
32
It's actually the reverse. The hard stuff doesn't bother me so much. It's the softer photos of the 9's and 10's that appeal more. Shouldn't be too bad. I think of all my vices this should be one of the easier to knock on the head, so long as I find other outlets, so to speak :D
If you're having a hard time adjusting from hardcore porn, try gradually reducing that. So instead, for the first few days, only look at pics of naked chicks. Then stop doing that later on.
I believe there is no difference. Both are just artificial stimulations. No matter what appeals most, both work the same way.
That creates a strong addiction.
 

Juanto

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 11, 2016
Messages
834
Reaction score
352
Age
44
I mostly only come now from sex, and cutting out porn for around 30 days and reducing fapping to like once a week has helped my erections immensely
 

BrandonCodi

Don Juan
Joined
May 8, 2017
Messages
10
Reaction score
2
Age
32
I always do no fap I am going to stay on no fap forever for this HUGE reason, I was always lucky with getting action. I was just in the right place at the right time kinda deal, but when I stopped masturbating I started to want to jack off so bad so I made myself go to the mall to talk to girls. This was a great choice because I met a 8 outta 10 in the mall. She was a Brazilian babe and we talked for around 5 minutes I then made a move and got a make-out in the middle of the mall. We also has some really great sex the next day too. I got to watch that Brazilian Booty Bounce. (Time frame was 32 days without faping before getting super sex)
 

JohnChops

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 9, 2012
Messages
2,734
Reaction score
481
Location
No more keyboard jockeying . Action is the place.
P
Yeah I'm kinda the same. Like if I put in my mind that I'm not gonna fap or do anything, I don't even get random boners anymore. Like even if I see a hot chick I won't even get aroused. But I think it was just the mental aspect of me having to stop. If I go NoFap without thinking about it (like say a few weeks just because it never really crosses my mind to jerk it) then I can still get hard.
Interesting how its so mental. Honestly, I jerk off now if I want to, and if I don't, I don't . I feel like nofap really only benefits you if you're a porn addict.
 

resilient

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 15, 2005
Messages
1,636
Reaction score
1,366
After 90 days... :lol:

Been six days for me... I'll see if I make 30 days this month. :cool:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Top