Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Fapping by itself isn't a huge problem it's mostly the porn so unless you are jerking off a lot you are probably fine.This is something I've been thinking about lately. I must ask though... What is the purpose of giving it up. I'm not talking about porn (I don't own any), I just mean fapping.
Different for everyone. And there's little or no evidence to suggest weather effects are chemical or psychological / placebo. But some things I notice personally....What is the purpose of giving it up.
From a bro who has done 90 days.I'm day three now. Determined to give it a proper go this time round. Like, at least a month as well. Had a moment of weakness last night and checked a few pictures online. But moved away as soon as something started stirring.
I need further motivation and energy to go out and pull something real. I usually start feeling really on edge by day 5. So by the time the weekend rolls round I should be in the mood to displace some surplus energy. This, in addition to my new found sobriety will work wonders.
Different for everyone. And there's little or no evidence to suggest weather effects are chemical or psychological / placebo. But some things I notice personally....
-Increase in energy, especially in the gym.
-Increased mental focus and improved attention span.
-Increased sensitivity and size downstairs.
-More checking out women, and they check me out more.
-More positive and stable mood.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Care to elaborate? What did you find?The REAL benefits arrive day 50-60
I've gone 100+ days with no porn and no jerking it. My issue is, eventually I lost.my ability to hold/get erections. It was the oddest thing. Then after I jerked it, boom, morning wood, horniness and erections are stronger than ever. No idea why that happened but it is something to be aware of.Fapping by itself isn't a huge problem it's mostly the porn so unless you are jerking off a lot you are probably fine.
If you're having a hard time adjusting from hardcore porn, try gradually reducing that. So instead, for the first few days, only look at pics of naked chicks. Then stop doing that later on.I'm day three now. Determined to give it a proper go this time round. Like, at least a month as well. Had a moment of weakness last night and checked a few pictures online. But moved away as soon as something started stirring.
I need further motivation and energy to go out and pull something real. I usually start feeling really on edge by day 5. So by the time the weekend rolls round I should be in the mood to displace some surplus energy. This, in addition to my new found sobriety will work wonders.
Different for everyone. And there's little or no evidence to suggest weather effects are chemical or psychological / placebo. But some things I notice personally....
-Increase in energy, especially in the gym.
-Increased mental focus and improved attention span.
-Increased sensitivity and size downstairs.
-More checking out women, and they check me out more.
-More positive and stable mood.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
It's actually the reverse. The hard stuff doesn't bother me so much. It's the softer photos of the 9's and 10's that appeal more. Shouldn't be too bad. I think of all my vices this should be one of the easier to knock on the head, so long as I find other outlets, so to speakIf you're having a hard time adjusting from hardcore porn, try gradually reducing that. So instead, for the first few days, only look at pics of naked chicks. Then stop doing that later on.
Im no porn foreverI think every guy is a little different. I would recommend getting rid of porn, but going no fap? Let that be a personal decision. Some guys have reported that it takes a couple months to see the real benefits...I can sort of confirm this myself. The thinking is that it forces your brain to reset sort of from no longer having the exposure to porn that it became used to. I can NOT report any sort of success with going no porn and no fap and having miraculous rock hard erections like I had when I was 17. So if you think that'll happen if you do all this, think again.
Yeah I'm kinda the same. Like if I put in my mind that I'm not gonna fap or do anything, I don't even get random boners anymore. Like even if I see a hot chick I won't even get aroused. But I think it was just the mental aspect of me having to stop. If I go NoFap without thinking about it (like say a few weeks just because it never really crosses my mind to jerk it) then I can still get hard.I've gone 100+ days with no porn and no jerking it. My issue is, eventually I lost.my ability to hold/get erections. It was the oddest thing. Then after I jerked it, boom, morning wood, horniness and erections are stronger than ever. No idea why that happened but it is something to be aware of.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's actually the reverse. The hard stuff doesn't bother me so much. It's the softer photos of the 9's and 10's that appeal more. Shouldn't be too bad. I think of all my vices this should be one of the easier to knock on the head, so long as I find other outlets, so to speak![]()
I believe there is no difference. Both are just artificial stimulations. No matter what appeals most, both work the same way.If you're having a hard time adjusting from hardcore porn, try gradually reducing that. So instead, for the first few days, only look at pics of naked chicks. Then stop doing that later on.
Interesting how its so mental. Honestly, I jerk off now if I want to, and if I don't, I don't . I feel like nofap really only benefits you if you're a porn addict.Yeah I'm kinda the same. Like if I put in my mind that I'm not gonna fap or do anything, I don't even get random boners anymore. Like even if I see a hot chick I won't even get aroused. But I think it was just the mental aspect of me having to stop. If I go NoFap without thinking about it (like say a few weeks just because it never really crosses my mind to jerk it) then I can still get hard.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.