"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Today I did my first day time approach in crowded place

EmotionalGeek

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Today, I did my first day time approach in crowded place. I entered the restaurant and looked arround for a table. There was a small table free and big table for many groups available. There was one girl at the table. I picked chair separated from her chair by two other chairs and asked if it is taken. She said no. She was constantly writing something on her phone. I sat. After a while I called my phone to set up our meeting for next week. I did it to build some social value (meeting was planed before I called to confirm and worm up my social muscles). Waitress came and I ordered salad and tee. After a while I noticed she drinks fancy drink (still on the phone). Without any thinking and hesitation or thinking about other people I opened:

- That is really nice drink
(I saw beautiful smile appearing on her face but she is still writing on the phone)
- yeah.
- It is quite coloful. Must be tasty.
- It is just normal tea.
- yeah, "normal red tee" with lot of fruits.
silence on her part

I ran out of things to say but I thought that I will reopen in a minute. After few minutes her boyfriend came and they switched table.

After a while two womans about 5 and 10 years older then me came near. Younger where looking at me and I think this was because I opened previous girl. I did not like her looks so I did not start conversation. Few minutes later another two womans came. One 27 or something other looked like her mother or aunt. Younger was fine but I was embarassed by presence of her mother. Additionaly they were talking about trip of younger one with her female friends. I did not know much about destination city so I did not have any topic to start conversation -- They both had same tees that first girl but it was strange to use it as another opener.

Anyway I opened without hesitation -- My consious brain must have not been working at the moment which was big advantege and opener was indirect so it was helpful in such crowded place. For the next hour whenever I reminded myself of the situation I felt really good. I did not find any other girl to open this day -- I picked wrong street and it was really cold.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Urbanyst

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Nice job.

Approaching women is a lot of fun and a really easy way to meet new women. Only close the friendly ones.
 

Roober

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Good stuff man! Just keep it up! Take what works, what doesn't work, and try again for the next girl.
 
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