"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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To vacation or not to vacation

SomeGirls

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Hello all! I have been a frequent lurker on the boards. I have gotten a lot of good insight from many of you. I will try to keep this as short as I can.

I met this chick about 6 months ago. I asked her out and she accepted but threw in the "I'm not interested in anything serious right now" line. I ended up not following through with a dinner date. That line led me to believe low interest.

I ended up going no contact for a few weeks after that. One night out of the blue she hit me on text and wanted me to meet her at a bar with her friends. I was actually with another plate when she texted. I ended up meeting her later that night. I get to the bar and we had a nice conversation. She got up to do something and said she would be right back.

She was gone for 20 min and I got up and left. She started texting asking where I was. Anyway I wasn't going to sit there and wait.

We did end up with one dinner date a few months later and it went well. It didn't actually feel like a date though. Out text messaging isn't very good. At times she seems interested and other times she doesn't. I have offered to meet her a few times and it never panned out.

One day she started texting me about how she wanted to go on vacation. I got the feeling she was about to invite me. I steered clear of it. A week later she just came out with it. She invited me to take a tropical vacation for 7 days.

I am a little perplexed with the invitation. If she wanted to hang out with me why not go on a date? All the sudden she wants to go on vacation with me? She said we can split the costs 50/50. She was all stoked about it. I was entertaining the idea with her. She was texting everyday for a few days asking about it.

What is the angle here?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ChalengeGuyFan

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Think about it: if you were interested in a girl, wouldn't you seek an opportunity to meet her and have something sexual going on?
This goes both ways.

You're clearly just a friend to hang out with. She's inviting you to that vacation because noone else will go.

I have a similar thing going on, but I'm not going in that vacation for HER, but to have fun and to fvck some slvts.
 

VladPatton

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I had the same thing happen, it means jack shıt. She'll invite you just for kicks, to have a large group to go with. I say her interest is low to none in seeking a sexual relationship with you. Time to delete her off your phone. Should of told her to go fück herself after leaving you sitting at the bar for 20 minutes. Where was she, blowing some dude in the bathroom??? GTFOH!
 

SomeGirls

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I should have known better than to even consider going on that trip. Thanks for the solid advice! NEXT
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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