Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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To the older gentlemen: What age do you feel you were at your prime?

HeadLightsOn

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My late 30's were good, but my forties to date have been excellent.

It is true that maturity brings wisdom (well it has to a certain extent with me), and having some better finances and prospects hasn't hurt either.

I too have noticed younger woman actively pursuing me compared to my late 30's even.

A while ago I dated a woman who was 25 years younger than me. And yes, I loved every minute of it :) Well, most minutes (not the princess hissy fit bull**** tho).

I have been told I am above average looks (not model stuff), I really look after my physique, and am quite outgoing. I have thinning hair and a more rugged type look.

So far, I am enjoying having the years on rather than off...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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evan12

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OP : what do exactly mean by prime , are you talking on most successful stage in life financially or sexually or both ?
 

SteR

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evan12 said:
OP : what do exactly mean by prime , are you talking on most successful stage in life financially or sexually or both ?
I was talking on the context of attracting women
 

Stagger Lee

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From everything I've seen, most guys are most successful between mid 20's and early 30's. You have some guys that do best early and lose their edge and looks by 30. Then you have others that look 10 years younger and seem to do good past their 40's.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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pierce_r

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Being older is great. I'm just getting better at this year after year.

You have to play the game differently now than you did when you were 26. But it's okay. I'd look out of place hanging out at a dance club. I met my current FB / FWB at my yacht club.

The only thing about being in your 40's and beyond is that if you don't have your life together, you're not going to be competitive.

You need to have the job, the car, the bachelor pad, the discretionary income, the clothes (custom shirts FTW), and the physique. Women have more expectations of you, but if you can meet those expectations, you will be miles ahead of the 20-nothings.

Start NOW and get it together by the time you're my age. It's soooooo worth it.
 

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My prime regarding women was probably when i was 25-26. That was the first time i was able to get a high quality woman and make her my gf. Probably atleast 2 points above me in terms of attractiveness, a solid 9. At that age i was happy, funny and ambitious. I had a lot of confidence and self esteem. I would pull plenty of chicks before that, but never the ones i really wanted.

After turning 30 my life is better in all other aspects, minus the women part. I have my own bachelor pad, a decent job that pays about 90k a year, great social circle and i've been hitting the gym for almost a year and i am probably in my best physical shape to date. I also dress better. Bad stuff is that i'm short (5,7-5,8), hairline is receeding and my game is rusty. I'm currently taking a break from women and focusing on other issues. I'm trying to quit relying on alcohol and quitting my binge drinking. This has the highest priority in my life now. So far so good.

I hope the 30's are as good as they say.
 
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BobMo'

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Physically at 50. My appeal to women over 25 (and some under) is still going up because I'm in shape, play music better than ever, and don't care about the outcome.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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