"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To the older gentlemen: What age do you feel you were at your prime?

HeadLightsOn

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My late 30's were good, but my forties to date have been excellent.

It is true that maturity brings wisdom (well it has to a certain extent with me), and having some better finances and prospects hasn't hurt either.

I too have noticed younger woman actively pursuing me compared to my late 30's even.

A while ago I dated a woman who was 25 years younger than me. And yes, I loved every minute of it :) Well, most minutes (not the princess hissy fit bull**** tho).

I have been told I am above average looks (not model stuff), I really look after my physique, and am quite outgoing. I have thinning hair and a more rugged type look.

So far, I am enjoying having the years on rather than off...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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evan12

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OP : what do exactly mean by prime , are you talking on most successful stage in life financially or sexually or both ?
 

SteR

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evan12 said:
OP : what do exactly mean by prime , are you talking on most successful stage in life financially or sexually or both ?
I was talking on the context of attracting women
 

Stagger Lee

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From everything I've seen, most guys are most successful between mid 20's and early 30's. You have some guys that do best early and lose their edge and looks by 30. Then you have others that look 10 years younger and seem to do good past their 40's.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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pierce_r

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Being older is great. I'm just getting better at this year after year.

You have to play the game differently now than you did when you were 26. But it's okay. I'd look out of place hanging out at a dance club. I met my current FB / FWB at my yacht club.

The only thing about being in your 40's and beyond is that if you don't have your life together, you're not going to be competitive.

You need to have the job, the car, the bachelor pad, the discretionary income, the clothes (custom shirts FTW), and the physique. Women have more expectations of you, but if you can meet those expectations, you will be miles ahead of the 20-nothings.

Start NOW and get it together by the time you're my age. It's soooooo worth it.
 

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My prime regarding women was probably when i was 25-26. That was the first time i was able to get a high quality woman and make her my gf. Probably atleast 2 points above me in terms of attractiveness, a solid 9. At that age i was happy, funny and ambitious. I had a lot of confidence and self esteem. I would pull plenty of chicks before that, but never the ones i really wanted.

After turning 30 my life is better in all other aspects, minus the women part. I have my own bachelor pad, a decent job that pays about 90k a year, great social circle and i've been hitting the gym for almost a year and i am probably in my best physical shape to date. I also dress better. Bad stuff is that i'm short (5,7-5,8), hairline is receeding and my game is rusty. I'm currently taking a break from women and focusing on other issues. I'm trying to quit relying on alcohol and quitting my binge drinking. This has the highest priority in my life now. So far so good.

I hope the 30's are as good as they say.
 
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Physically at 50. My appeal to women over 25 (and some under) is still going up because I'm in shape, play music better than ever, and don't care about the outcome.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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