"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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To Sir with Attitude

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Am I the only one who cringes when people call me "Sir"?

(Literally as a 60 year old waitress calls me sir).

And don't tell me people in the South are trained to be douchebags.

Doesn't "sir" always seem like a backhanded way to say "old man"?

Simple rule: If I am still strong enough to kill your boyfriend with my bare hands, don't call me Sir.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm 55 but look many years younger but yeah if it is some young POA your sizing up it stings....lol
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It's a polite and respectful thing to say. It's just good customer service taken seriously. It doesn't imply age, but most guys who's formally a Sir are old.
 
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I like it from men as it's a sign of respect, I like it from young women for the same reason, but for some reason I hate it from the 30+ female crowd. Somehow I perceive it as disingenuous from that group.
 
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bigneil said:
Simple rule: If I am still strong enough to kill your boyfriend with my bare hands, don't call me Sir.
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You'll never be strong enough to stop a bullet, Neil.

Pretty sure the term 'Sir' is a sign of respect, at least in the states I've been in. Now being called 'grandpa,' 'coon,' or a blatant insult would be disrespectful. At least in my book.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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what kind of person takes offense to being callled "sir"

get your fkin head out of your ass boy
 
Poonani Maker

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I've noticed that I get called "Sir" in a customer service situation where She's letting me know that she doesn't think that I'm being very "professional." It's usually a turn of events, and it happens QUICK, and it's just a switch that gets flipped in Her mind (not warranted, because I've met 10s of 1000s of people and Know people therefore I know if I am wrong). She's usually very inexperienced if she (the customer service hoe) drops "Sir" as a kind of chastisement. She hasn't weathered any REAL storms of a wide variety of people if she thinks "I" am actually outta hand. So I laugh. She will never see me stop laughing. She can threaten me with my job and I'll still think she's silly. It's just the world we live in where women don't belong in the positions they're in, and make more money than they are worth fo sho.
 
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