"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Am I the only one who cringes when people call me "Sir"?

(Literally as a 60 year old waitress calls me sir).

And don't tell me people in the South are trained to be douchebags.

Doesn't "sir" always seem like a backhanded way to say "old man"?

Simple rule: If I am still strong enough to kill your boyfriend with my bare hands, don't call me Sir.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm 55 but look many years younger but yeah if it is some young POA your sizing up it stings....lol
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It's a polite and respectful thing to say. It's just good customer service taken seriously. It doesn't imply age, but most guys who's formally a Sir are old.
 
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I like it from men as it's a sign of respect, I like it from young women for the same reason, but for some reason I hate it from the 30+ female crowd. Somehow I perceive it as disingenuous from that group.
 
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bigneil said:
Simple rule: If I am still strong enough to kill your boyfriend with my bare hands, don't call me Sir.
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You'll never be strong enough to stop a bullet, Neil.

Pretty sure the term 'Sir' is a sign of respect, at least in the states I've been in. Now being called 'grandpa,' 'coon,' or a blatant insult would be disrespectful. At least in my book.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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what kind of person takes offense to being callled "sir"

get your fkin head out of your ass boy
 
Poonani Maker

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I've noticed that I get called "Sir" in a customer service situation where She's letting me know that she doesn't think that I'm being very "professional." It's usually a turn of events, and it happens QUICK, and it's just a switch that gets flipped in Her mind (not warranted, because I've met 10s of 1000s of people and Know people therefore I know if I am wrong). She's usually very inexperienced if she (the customer service hoe) drops "Sir" as a kind of chastisement. She hasn't weathered any REAL storms of a wide variety of people if she thinks "I" am actually outta hand. So I laugh. She will never see me stop laughing. She can threaten me with my job and I'll still think she's silly. It's just the world we live in where women don't belong in the positions they're in, and make more money than they are worth fo sho.
 
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