"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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To pay or not to pay, that is the question.

Kourt

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So when I went to the movies with the girl I'm dating. While walking up to the registor, I asked her "did you bring money?" or somthing like that, I paid for mine, she paid for hers. I figured most people go dutch, but if she didnt bring money I'd happily pay. Later one of her friends told me that I should have paid for her. I dont mind paying full, but it'll get expensive after a while. How do u guys manage things?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If you are out on a date. My rule is to ALWAYS pay on the first date. ALWAYS.. even if she offers. If hse really insists, let her pay the tip. (that is if its a dinner date).

If you arent hookin gup by the 3rd or 4th date.. next her.

If she offers to pay, I usually let her pay by date 3. Then I will pay the next 2 -3 dates. Then let her pay. and so on.

This topic is covered a lot in the DJ Bible, check it out!
 

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I manage things by not going to the movies.

Go rollerblading in the park, pay for ice creams.

Go miniputting, pay for both.

goto the park for a picnic, free.

bring her over to watch a movie at your place or vice versa, almost free.

As a student, i have to operate on a student's budget, which means most of the **** i do is low cost.

However, that said, I try to make a habit of always paying on the first date. After that, it evens out.

Rhino
 

00Kevin

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I don't think there is a rule for this.. DO WHAT YOU WANT!.. if the girl doesn't like you because you payed then kick her to the curb and call up one of your other girls.

Some girlw feel bad if they let you pay, but that is usually only because they don't like you. They don't want to go home feeling bad that they made you pay.
 

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always pay on the 1st date, but never go over $40 (that's my max). usually 1st date's (dinner, movie, or something close to that) do not exceed $30. At least where I live, movie for 2 is about $14, and dinner for 2 is around $20 depending on where you go.

after the 1st go dutch, or do switch paying (paying every other)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by vrad
If you are out on a date. My rule is to ALWAYS pay on the first date. ALWAYS.. even if she offers. If hse really insists, let her pay the tip. (that is if its a dinner date).

If you arent hookin gup by the 3rd or 4th date.. next her.

If she offers to pay, I usually let her pay by date 3. Then I will pay the next 2 -3 dates. Then let her pay. and so on.

This topic is covered a lot in the DJ Bible, check it out!
So you're saying buy her off... Hmmm... I like the rollerblading idea moreso myself. Either way, whether we do something that costs money or not, I only go out with women who are willing to entertain me as much as I entertain them. What's the benifit of you doing all of the work anyway?
 
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