"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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To myspace or not to myspace, that is the question

Kourt

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Whats your guys thoughts on having a myspace?

Think its something girls and emo guys do? Or is it something that can enhance your image and possible attract girls and be a good way to get yourself and your ideas out there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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kourt one question why do you want these girls?

Is it for sex only or more?

i am just curious.
 

Kourt

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Nah not just for sex, sex is nice and all, but what I'm looking for now is someone whos going to like me for me, and actually give a sh1t about how I'm feeling and someone I can care about. I want someone to be close to and someone who can keep me from feeling so damn alone right now. I'm looking for for a good, steady, stable relationship and someone I can care about and depend on. All that is much more important than the sex, I'd like the emotional part of a relationship to come together before the physical part. I dunno, maybe I'm just rambling . . .
 

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Kourt said:
Nah not just for sex, sex is nice and all, but what I'm looking for now is someone whos going to like me for me, and actually give a sh1t about how I'm feeling and someone I can care about. I want someone to be close to and someone who can keep me from feeling so damn alone right now. I'm looking for for a good, steady, stable relationship and someone I can care about and depend on. All that is much more important than the sex, I'd like the emotional part of a relationship to come together before the physical part. I dunno, maybe I'm just rambling . . .

mmmmm, man this is where i see your majour flaw.
It is all becoming crystal clear like a cloud of murky water being slowly sanitized.

Ok look i dont know how to say this so it sinks in, you are really not understanding at all, your awash with social conditioning you actually reak of it i can smell you from here.

1: it is ok to be single, it actually as many many benifits!
2: you should never need anyone to feel fulfilled, if a women comes she is to share your great life not MAKE IT.
3: Stop looking at women to solve your every problem, this is social conditioning BS, women relationships will not solve your problems and make your life better.
4: The true path is not women, the true path is infact YOU


This is one tip I hope you do not ignore.
Do research if you must, but change your thinking on women, stop looking at women for the answer to all your problems.
Women are not the answer.

This is the better path for you, you are young, stop focusing on getting women, focus on improving yourself, financially, emotionally and building up your mates, stop wasting energy on this pursuit it is futile. Granted find women and persue them but do not make it number 1 make it number 5 or number 6.

This is a website that may help you shift your thinking.
It is a guy who live independent he has gone from being poor in society to commanding a large company and being a genuine leader that women Peruse and he still has not real interest in them
http://mirrorofthesoul.blogspot.com/2004_03_01_mirrorofthesoul_archive.html

This is a better path even if I think he focuses on feminist far too much, but still you can see his angle.

Shift your thinking.
 

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If I've said it once I've said it a thousand times. If you're going to set up a myspace account, use it for something useful. Hitting on girls over an emotionless piece of hardware does not qualify as good time managment. My former room mate went out with just one girl over myspace, I won't go into the details but it was not a good experience and I had to rescue him from the situation (I HATE rescue missions!).

I digress, I have a myspace account myself and I'm not ashamed to admit it. However the only people on my "friends list" are either club/bar owners/promoters, some of my legitmate friends, and buisness contacts that can help me out in the difficult to master casino administration game. There are no random wh*res from UNLV, there are no models who have a million plus friends who I will never meet as long as I live, there are no fictional characters, there are no in animate objects (I think I saw a listing for "The Brick Wall" and yes it was a person posting a brick wall), and there never will be. I use myspace to better my social status, but I don't believe it can or will ever sucsessfully become a route for me to pick up women outside of my conventional methods.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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