Kourt said:
Nah not just for sex, sex is nice and all, but what I'm looking for now is someone whos going to like me for me, and actually give a sh1t about how I'm feeling and someone I can care about. I want someone to be close to and someone who can keep me from feeling so damn alone right now. I'm looking for for a good, steady, stable relationship and someone I can care about and depend on. All that is much more important than the sex, I'd like the emotional part of a relationship to come together before the physical part. I dunno, maybe I'm just rambling . . .
mmmmm, man this is where i see your majour flaw.
It is all becoming crystal clear like a cloud of murky water being slowly sanitized.
Ok look i dont know how to say this so it sinks in, you are really not understanding at all, your awash with social conditioning you actually reak of it i can smell you from here.
1: it is ok to be single, it actually as many many benifits!
2: you should never need anyone to feel fulfilled, if a women comes she is to share your great life not MAKE IT.
3: Stop looking at women to solve your every problem, this is social conditioning BS, women relationships will not solve your problems and make your life better.
4: The true path is not women, the true path is infact YOU
This is one tip I hope you do not ignore.
Do research if you must, but change your thinking on women, stop looking at women for the answer to all your problems.
Women are not the answer.
This is the better path for you, you are young, stop focusing on getting women, focus on improving yourself, financially, emotionally and building up your mates, stop wasting energy on this pursuit it is futile. Granted find women and persue them but do not make it number 1 make it number 5 or number 6.
This is a website that may help you shift your thinking.
It is a guy who live independent he has gone from being poor in society to commanding a large company and being a genuine leader that women Peruse and he still has not real interest in them
http://mirrorofthesoul.blogspot.com/2004_03_01_mirrorofthesoul_archive.html
This is a better path even if I think he focuses on feminist far too much, but still you can see his angle.
Shift your thinking.