I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm meeting one chick in person tomorrow,another chick I just started texting. I'm getting weird replies from women who would never go out with me. I got one letter from a chick that is 32 with three kids that's 7 year age difference,and a 2 kids diffrence. I don't think I'm good looking maybe there horny or something. This stuff is starting to scare me a little I think women really are psychos.PDubb75 said:Too much success meaning... meeting people in person? Or tons of replies?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Justwuzzle.JustWuzzle said:I'm meeting one chick in person tomorrow,another chick I just started texting. I'm getting weird replies from women who would never go out with me. I got one letter from a chick that is 32 with three kids that's 7 year age difference,and a 2 kids diffrence. I don't think I'm good looking maybe there horny or something. This stuff is starting to scare me a little I think women really are psychos.
I'm going to meet this girl tommorow and see where that goes. I've gotten one chick off the site once but that was a couple years ago. I could use "female" friends I guess. I will definetly use all of you guys advice thanks.Naughty Ninja said:Justwuzzle.
It's your profile and pic and YOU are the one talking. I only gave you small tips. I'd guess you are doing good so far as you say.
***Try to get Facebook ad's if you have one. That way you can see more and recent pictures of the chicks you're talking to or write you. That will kill the "unknown" of at least a possible ugmo or a dude in women's clothing.
You're going to get the constant negativity from alot of the people on here who will always critique no matter what you do. (Not all posters though)
One will say: You're not going to get responses.
The next will say: They're going to stop responding to your emails.
The next will say: They're not going to give you their numbers.
The next will say: They're not going to answer when you call.
The next will say: They're going to flake.
The next will say: They're going to leave the date too soon.
The next will say: You didn't fvck her.
The next will say: You only fvcked her once.
The next will say: They're all crazy.
You just need to keep emailing and talking with these chicks and trying to meet them. Who cares if you don't "fvck" all of them or any of them. At least it's somewhat helping you in at least talking to them and getting some kind of interest.
Just use it as practice in talking to chicks whether "sane or insane" and you'll learn to brush all the crap off and not care while doing YOU.
Remember to just use that site as practice only and if you meet them. Fine. Still try to meet and talk to women in everyday life. There is no substitute. Just keep positive and friendly. It's not that hard.
No DJ Ninja B.S tactics needed.
Keep up the good work!
Don't try to make yourself her friend. lol. Unless you don't care for her in a dating way.JustWuzzle said:I'm going to meet this girl tommorow and see where that goes. I've gotten one chick off the site once but that was a couple years ago. I could use "female" friends I guess. I will definetly use all of you guys advice thanks.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.