Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm meeting one chick in person tomorrow,another chick I just started texting. I'm getting weird replies from women who would never go out with me. I got one letter from a chick that is 32 with three kids that's 7 year age difference,and a 2 kids diffrence. I don't think I'm good looking maybe there horny or something. This stuff is starting to scare me a little I think women really are psychos.PDubb75 said:Too much success meaning... meeting people in person? Or tons of replies?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Justwuzzle.JustWuzzle said:I'm meeting one chick in person tomorrow,another chick I just started texting. I'm getting weird replies from women who would never go out with me. I got one letter from a chick that is 32 with three kids that's 7 year age difference,and a 2 kids diffrence. I don't think I'm good looking maybe there horny or something. This stuff is starting to scare me a little I think women really are psychos.
I'm going to meet this girl tommorow and see where that goes. I've gotten one chick off the site once but that was a couple years ago. I could use "female" friends I guess. I will definetly use all of you guys advice thanks.Naughty Ninja said:Justwuzzle.
It's your profile and pic and YOU are the one talking. I only gave you small tips. I'd guess you are doing good so far as you say.
***Try to get Facebook ad's if you have one. That way you can see more and recent pictures of the chicks you're talking to or write you. That will kill the "unknown" of at least a possible ugmo or a dude in women's clothing.
You're going to get the constant negativity from alot of the people on here who will always critique no matter what you do. (Not all posters though)
One will say: You're not going to get responses.
The next will say: They're going to stop responding to your emails.
The next will say: They're not going to give you their numbers.
The next will say: They're not going to answer when you call.
The next will say: They're going to flake.
The next will say: They're going to leave the date too soon.
The next will say: You didn't fvck her.
The next will say: You only fvcked her once.
The next will say: They're all crazy.
You just need to keep emailing and talking with these chicks and trying to meet them. Who cares if you don't "fvck" all of them or any of them. At least it's somewhat helping you in at least talking to them and getting some kind of interest.
Just use it as practice in talking to chicks whether "sane or insane" and you'll learn to brush all the crap off and not care while doing YOU.
Remember to just use that site as practice only and if you meet them. Fine. Still try to meet and talk to women in everyday life. There is no substitute. Just keep positive and friendly. It's not that hard.
No DJ Ninja B.S tactics needed.
Keep up the good work!
Don't try to make yourself her friend. lol. Unless you don't care for her in a dating way.JustWuzzle said:I'm going to meet this girl tommorow and see where that goes. I've gotten one chick off the site once but that was a couple years ago. I could use "female" friends I guess. I will definetly use all of you guys advice thanks.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.