"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To msg after sex or not?

Young_Don

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Met up with a tinder match last night, solid 9/10 fitness model. Invited me over to hers.. badabing badaboom you know the story

The sex wasn't mind blowing but still pretty good, smashed for a solid hour or so and made sure she finished a couple times. She said she had fun and off I went.

Thing is, I haven't heard from her in 24hrs (which is fine) but this is a girl I'm pretty keen on having a casual thing with instead of just a one off. We established that we both don't want anything serious as she's only just new to the city and is still settling in, just wanted some fun company.

I wouldn't bother msging any other girl and I haven't msgd her yet, don't want her to get the wrong idea and think I'm a clinger. But just curious if I should text her eventually at some point or not, and if so, what would that msg look like?

I can't host that often, whereas she has her own appartment. Otherwise of course I would hit her up some time during the week and invite her over. Just feels a bit awkward sending a random text asking to come past again.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Murk

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You're in a bad spot as you don't have your own place and she does, plus she's a 9/10 fitness model on tinder... you do the maths

Shoot her a message or better yet a phone call. If you can phone her up, make her laugh, reignite some sexual tension and say lets do it again you have a better chance.
 
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Do what you feel like doing. If you feel like only smashing again, invite to smash after 3/4 days. If you feel like taking a walk, invite her out for a walk. Stop caring so much about how the message will seem to her.
 
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I dont act any different after sex as I did before. Your situation with Tinder is unique because there was very little communication before you matched and went to her place.

I would just shoot her a text and say "Last night was fun. Lets get together again this ___ at 8".

Lead and see how she handles it. She is either going to be down to hang out again or she will more than likely not respond back.

No reason to sit around and not make a move of some sort.
 
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