"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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To give or not to give/allow closure

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BJP1991

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For two scenarios: Would you give a woman the time of day for closure? Meaning they want to talk about the relationship and feel "good" about how it ends. I know it's mostly to serve their own agenda and not feel bad or guilty about what they've done. So, in the following do you give closure during or after a breakup?

1. Mutual Breakup: No cheating, No major red flags, just not the best for either of you and the relationship ends. Do you allow time for closure?

2. Cheating: Whether you were cheated on by her, or whether you cheated on her. Do you allow time for closure?

My gut tells me #1 is circumstantial. #2 would be automatic no closure if you were cheated on by her, right?

Thanks! Just a little thought today and curious what everybody thinks about closure.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BJP1991 said:
For two scenarios: Would you give a woman the time of day for closure? Meaning they want to talk about the relationship and feel "good" about how it ends. I know it's mostly to serve their own agenda and not feel bad or guilty about what they've done. So, in the following do you give closure during or after a breakup?

1. Mutual Breakup: No cheating, No major red flags, just not the best for either of you and the relationship ends. Do you allow time for closure?

2. Cheating: Whether you were cheated on by her, or whether you cheated on her. Do you allow time for closure?

My gut tells me #1 is circumstantial. #2 would be automatic no closure if you were cheated on by her, right?

Thanks! Just a little thought today and curious what everybody thinks about closure.
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I never really thought about it in those terms. If I'm angry about what happened then I'm not going to be in the mood to talk. How she deals with that is her problem.
 
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