"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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cA^

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ey guys,

Haven't posted here for awhile, last month (May) just havent been myself, was lacking abit of confidence and whatnot, on a 2 week break from college now, and an interesting situation has arisen..

Just a sidenote, College for me is year 11 / 12, where about 600 students are on campus each day. Students are either 16, 17 or 18.

Now each year, the College takes on a new trainee for the gym. They are usually young (just finished year 12) and help with things like getting out equiptment, cleaning the weights room at the end of the day etc.

Now the trainee this year is about a 7.5, she'd be a year older than me (18) and i've talked to her a few times, built abit of rapport when we talked about stuff like the indoor soccer comp. etc.

Anyway on Friday, was the last day of first term, now we're on a 2 week break, in the afternoon i'd been working out and on my way out to the changerooms, i went to her office (she shares it with 3 other teachers) and asked her if the gym would be open in the holidays.

She told me it'd be open Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday til the afternoon and Thursday in the first week, and on Wednesday afternoon in the 2nd week only. All the time she was giving me good eye-contact.

I said I should be in during the first week sometime, and she goes "yea come in anytime, come in and visit me" with abit of a laugh while maintaining eye contact, I said yea we'll see what happens with a smile.

She seemed abit nervous when she was laughing at the last bit, anyway my question is; when I go to workout in the first week on whatever day, I was going to ask her to come workout with me biggrin.gif and that way I can lay some massive kino...

BUT

is it a good idea to get invovled with this girl, seeing as she is the trainee at the college I attend? I guess it's kind of like getting involved with a girl from work?

I'm keen to put the month of May behind me and start off on a new note, 2 weeks of holidays to do some soul searching, more self improvement and then i'll be back keener than ever when term 2 starts biggrin.gif ninja.gif

Hope some guys can shed some light on this one, not quite sure what to do, however I felt a big IL when she said "come in and see me" during the holidays, something I dont think she'd normally say to other guys who would ask that question..

Thanks guys,
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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any senior dj's got any adivce if it's a good idea to have a crack at the trainee.. :D?
 

poohead

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it's not the same as getting involved with a girl from work because your livelihood/survival is not potentially at risk. kino away my friend, life is all about taking risks.
 
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