"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
To Facebook or not?
- Thread starter Angelo
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
bilboteabaggins
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Diaforetikos
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I deleted my Facebook, and am now doing much better female wise. I am dating someone at the moment, though, so I don't socialize with other women as much ad I use to.
I'm not knocking the use of Facebook. I just felt for me, that it wasn't necessary. I've been without it for 4 months and don't miss it a bit.
Learn to sarge without it first before you dive into adding Facebook to your arsenal.
francoatgrex
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If you decide to have it, use it with moderation. Revealing a little bit / a minimum of yourself can be fine, but airing your dirty laundry in public, revealing aspects of your private life that should really remain private, is very anti-seductive.Angelo said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
