"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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To do if she flopped?

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nice_guyeh

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Says shes down to chill. But not really..

First time told her to hang out she flopped cause she drove a friend home who was hammered.

Secondtime,says long day of work and horseback riding,or whatever...not down


Should i go quite for a bit?

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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jester1x

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Her interest in you is lukewarm to non-existent. I'd quit asking and quit contacting her for a bit. She if she initiates anything with you. You'll get your answer either way.

I don't mean to sound harsh but I even have to remind myself that you don't have to remind or keep bugging women who are truly interested in getting to know you better. If they are interested in you, they'll will set aside some time for you unless they are laid up in the hospital unconscious. Even then they'll probably visit you in a dream. ;)
 
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There's a good Jophil quote around here, I know it's in someone's sig here but it goes something a long the lines of "Don't reward a woman who flaked with the opportunity to do it again"..

Women with high interest don't flake.

-Scars
 
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she's not interested or attracted, thats why she flaked. she was just being polite. girls that are attracted dont flake period point blank. learn to build more attraction. also when you ask a girl out make it specific, dont say lets hang out sometime. it says to the girl i'm indecisive, and i'm not confident that she'll say yes. its also a low investment and gives the girl any number of reasons to flake.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Scars said:
There's a good Jophil quote around here, I know it's in someone's sig here but it goes something a long the lines of "Don't reward a woman who flaked with the opportunity to do it again"..

Women with high interest don't flake.

-Scars
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That quote is amazing Scars. Put that to memory. Once and she's done. I've given girls multiple chances and I regret it all. They don't deserve your time, THEY DO NOT DESERVE TO WASTE YOUR TIME.
 
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You tried twice, that's enough. Her interest is not there, or she would of definitely went with you on attempt number 2. Time to move on, unfortunately.
 
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