You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most people can learn this stuff too. The main thing that makes being a doctor or being a lawyer ‘hard’ isn’t the job itself. That’s the easy part. The hard part is waking up early in the morning and studying for hours on end about stuff that ACTUALLY has nothing to do with what doctors and lawyers do. It’s ****ty, but true.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yea the school is the hard part.
Yeah, and my name is in the title. I feel popular and special
You're a rock star nowYeah, and my name is in the title. I feel popular and special
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Pace yourself with the studying, in my third year I could tell you, 5-10 hours of studying 5 days a week for the past 2 years really took a toll on me mentally, emotionally, and physically. Taking physics right now, oh my god kill me. That class is brutal. The class average is 40/100 for 700 students. I feel proud to get a 60.. With the curve I'm almost at an A-. But I mean, I'm burned out.
I actually didn’t find inorganic chemistry all that hard to be honest. Or rather, it was hard, but I understood it very well. I took notes in class, and when the prof went too fast, I just stopped and listened. And after the class was over, if I missed anything, I would go online and look at the PowerPoint and take notes from there. Just writing it down is enough studying for me thank goodness, but my mental state has deteriorated a ton due to a lack of sleep. But even so, I did fairly well. I studied for it on avg. about 5-8 hours a week outside of the lab, lecture, and discussion, and homework. I would have gotten an A in the class, but the stupid ****ing chemistry department is ‘sponsored’ (i.e. bribed) by a company so that students have to pay $80 in order to be able to do the ****ing homework. Because of that, I missed the first 5 assignments and got a B instead. I understood the material better than anyone in the class though because aside from the first exam, which I got a 77 on, I scored above a 91% on all them. But that stupid ****ing homework. Bull. ****. I deserved an A.
No do not use them lol - maybe coffee. BUT I do not recommend adderall. If you use it like I did, you will be depressed afterwards.
You closed a thread with my name in the title???? You shall pay in the mod corner!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.