Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Most people can learn this stuff too. The main thing that makes being a doctor or being a lawyer ‘hard’ isn’t the job itself. That’s the easy part. The hard part is waking up early in the morning and studying for hours on end about stuff that ACTUALLY has nothing to do with what doctors and lawyers do. It’s ****ty, but true.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yea the school is the hard part.
Yeah, and my name is in the title. I feel popular and special
You're a rock star nowYeah, and my name is in the title. I feel popular and special
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Pace yourself with the studying, in my third year I could tell you, 5-10 hours of studying 5 days a week for the past 2 years really took a toll on me mentally, emotionally, and physically. Taking physics right now, oh my god kill me. That class is brutal. The class average is 40/100 for 700 students. I feel proud to get a 60.. With the curve I'm almost at an A-. But I mean, I'm burned out.
I actually didn’t find inorganic chemistry all that hard to be honest. Or rather, it was hard, but I understood it very well. I took notes in class, and when the prof went too fast, I just stopped and listened. And after the class was over, if I missed anything, I would go online and look at the PowerPoint and take notes from there. Just writing it down is enough studying for me thank goodness, but my mental state has deteriorated a ton due to a lack of sleep. But even so, I did fairly well. I studied for it on avg. about 5-8 hours a week outside of the lab, lecture, and discussion, and homework. I would have gotten an A in the class, but the stupid ****ing chemistry department is ‘sponsored’ (i.e. bribed) by a company so that students have to pay $80 in order to be able to do the ****ing homework. Because of that, I missed the first 5 assignments and got a B instead. I understood the material better than anyone in the class though because aside from the first exam, which I got a 77 on, I scored above a 91% on all them. But that stupid ****ing homework. Bull. ****. I deserved an A.
No do not use them lol - maybe coffee. BUT I do not recommend adderall. If you use it like I did, you will be depressed afterwards.
You closed a thread with my name in the title???? You shall pay in the mod corner!
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.