KermitTheFr0g
Banned
Unfortunately for you. You're irrelevant.Explain Einstein's Theory of Relativity to me.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Unfortunately for you. You're irrelevant.Explain Einstein's Theory of Relativity to me.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yes, and this is my problem. Even people in prison told me I needed anger management. It's not social anxiety, it's more what comes out of my mouth after that.you get angry at people
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I've seen the world. There's nowhere I could go right now that I haven't seen before, aside from visiting another country.joined May 25 2017
2155 posts divided by 6 months
= 359.16
359.16 posts divided by 30 days
= 11.97
Averaging 12 posts a day for the last 6 months.
maybe stop asking so many questions and go explore the world.
No thanks. Refrain from talking to me since all you do is close my posts and don't allow me to respond. Why is her other patient more important than me? Why does she feel that her time is more valuable than mine?Still waiting for my insults to be quoted....
then put the phone down.I've seen the world. There's nowhere I could go right now that I haven't seen before, aside from visiting another country.
Again, it's called a SMART PHONE.
Why are you seeing a psychologist then?But I'm not mentally ill. And who are you again?
What mental illness do I have? I'm curious.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Okay I'll show you this when it's done. Done by my bare hands. And I was just looking at other listings sent to me, now that I have confidence in the process and my ability to do the work, could profit $75,000 next time.All this work and you've still made $0 flipping houses.
well, having social anxiety may very well manifest itself in anger. not all ppl wth social anxiety withdraw and turn into wall paper. social anxiety is a mechanism of protecting oneself from becoming toll vulnerable and risking getting hurt. social anxiety is about fear. being openly angry is also about being fearful. by being angry you also push people away.Yes, and this is my problem. Even people in prison told me I needed anger management. It's not social anxiety, it's more what comes out of my mouth after that.
Therefore, desinova's diagnosis of my problem as social anxiety is incorrect. Not to mention that I never invited him to be my personal coach in the first place. He just decided to make himself that one day.
If I had social anxiety, could I meet two girls who were complete strangers and have a threesome with them? I've been to sex parties where 50 people are in a hotel room walking around naked.
I may have a problem with "small talk," however...
Also, on the subject of "social anxiety," I think you may underestimate the amount that everyone is a psycho and it's probably smart to be wary of them. It's pretty naive to think that everyone wants to be your friend if you smile at them.
you know, ill just casually mention that you could have chosen to cultivate this relationship with @Desdinova into something amicable, or even tried to mold it into something positive. Just because two people have a moment of disagreement doesnt mean that the relationship has to cave.No thanks. Refrain from talking to me since all you do is close my posts and don't allow me to respond. Why is her other patient more important than me? Why does she feel that her time is more valuable than mine?
Don't answer. I don't care what you think.
Your self-image is in the toilet, for one thing. When you're bragging about the things you are good at, it is yourself that you are trying to convince. I'm not saying anything you said is untrue. I don't think it is. I seem to believe you more than you believe yourself.What mental illness do I have? I'm curious.
No, they don't deserve me because they are stupid weak little girls lip synching the words to stupid hip-hop songs, and probably have a total of 3 brain cells that are coated in alcohol most of the time.well, having social anxiety may very well manifest itself in anger. not all ppl wth social anxiety withdraw and turn into wall paper. social anxiety is a mechanism of protecting oneself from becoming toll vulnerable and risking getting hurt. social anxiety is about fear. being openly angry is also about being fearful. by being angry you also push people away.
From what I have seen you post, you were able to have a 3 some because you paid and knew it was a done deal. You controlled the whole scenario, controlled the whole situation.
Meeting women socially in order to try to woo them (in whatever capacity you want to woo them) is you putting yourself in a position of being totally not in control. It's the 'not being in control' part that causes you anxiety. it's the rejection factor, even the potential rejection factor, that you are fearful of, that comes out as anger about 'these people', how they are boring, dont deserve you, dont understand your value. These are all coping mechanisms you use when you feel rejection.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Everything you just said is inaccurate.Your self-image is in the toilet, for one thing. When you're bragging about the things you are good at, it is yourself that you are trying to convince. I'm not saying anything you said is untrue. I don't think it is. I seem to believe you more than you believe yourself.
Your anger issues at the world, and especially at women, are a projection of your own issues with yourself.
I'd say weed would at least calm you down, but you've probably already tried that. Eat an edible if you have never tried one. You're in Florida, right? I used to live there. Mushrooms grow in every cow field. Psilocyn/psilocybin actually shows tremendous promise as a medical drug. Eat a big handful of those mushrooms and spend an evening pondering your life. Do not drive or operate heavy machinery, and stay away from power tools. It may give you a new perspective on life.
Had you asked me at the time, I would have been advising you to not melt your brain with all that sh!tty acid. This was in Florida? They have the worst quality stuff. Mushrooms are a completely different thing. And the active ingredient in them is in human clinical trials right now as a treatment for PTSD and depression.It is terrible advice to tell me, or anyone, to do drugs.
I did lots of mushrooms too.Had you asked me at the time, I would have been advising you to not melt your brain with all that sh!tty acid. This was in Florida? They have the worst quality stuff. Mushrooms are a completely different thing. And the active ingredient in them is in human clinical trials right now as a treatment for PTSD and depression.
Post something that shows you're putting in some effort in the real world. Talk about a female you chatted up, talk about how you got another girl's number, talk about a coffee date you went on, ANYTHING other than bytching about girls, yourself, and life.Refrain from talking to me since all you do is close my posts and don't allow me to respond.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.