"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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to date or not to date her

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Hi guys,

Been reading a lot of stuff here lately and its been a good help. I am in a sort of a dilemma. So I met this girl online not too long ago, and we already had a first date (getting her to give me her number was already a pain to begin with). Anyways, after our first date, i knew I liked her since we share so many things in common. However, after the date, I noticed she started playing phone and text games. In any case, I already had a suspicion that she may be playing the field (which is true for a lot of people) and I may not be her first choice. So I asked my buddy's gf who is a mutual friend of hers and mine (i found out our mutual friends after adding her on FB) if she can tell me more about her. Apparently, they went to highschool together and apparently she was a good girl turn slut in highschool and in the beginning of uni. However, she's not sure now as she might have changed. Now that I know she used to be a slut and potentially could still be one, I am slowly considering abandoning my route to making her my gf and instead choose the route of "a girl I shouldnt take seriously and just have fun with".

Currently, she still playing these games with me, and if I do want to bed her at some point (if i do choose route B), I need to somehow even the playing field. Any ideas?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sounds like you are chasing her. If you invite her out and she doesn't want to go then no point in keeping to chase. Just leave it and maybe touch base with her in a few weeks if you are really keen but why put in the effort to just "have fun with".
 

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I guess you could say, i dont like it when im getting played lol. And the thing that gets me is she made it seem as if she's innocent and all and blatantly told me she doesnt sleep around (i forgot how the conversation got to that). Also, she is pretty hot and definitely wouldnt mind getting her to bed. But you're right I should stop chasing for a bit. I was thinking of asking her "do you think a slut will always be a slut?" as a random indirect question to just play some mind tricks on her but i dont think that would be a good idea in hindsight lol.
 
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